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Erin had the respirator turned off for her grandma Tuesday night, and we all stood next to grandma and held her hand as she passed away.... |
i hope she died peacefully. |
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I know she is happy now. She went in peace. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I know it was the right thing. It was what she wanted. The doctor finally gave me something to help, but I still want to cry all of the time. I miss her so much already. Aside from my husband and children, she was the closest person to me. Now all I have are memories. Thank God I have a whole lot of those. |
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I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope that things are well. |
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Anyway, this is not the thread to discuss this so I will create another one solely to catch up with you... and Eri, I am so sorry for your loss. At least you got to be with her in her last moments and now she is at peace. |
I don't question my decision. It was what she wanted and that is what is important. It was my honor to be able to be with her during the end. Please don't think that it was because I am so strong. It wasn't. It was simply because I loved her so much and wanted to honor her wishes. Truth, love, honesty, and honor are some of the most important things that she taught me. Most of my values were from her. I was extremely naive and ignorant going into adulthood. I didn't get guidance from my parents. She gave me that. She taught me how to cook meat (I was a vegetarian before I got married). She taught me how to clean (didn't learn that from mom). She taught me how to make a dollar stretch (definately not my parents). She taught me how to stand up for myself, my beliefs and how to take pride in myself and my values. I thing that was the most important thing. My mother taught by fear and used guilt trips to get her way. My grandmother taught me reason and taught me to stand up for right from wrong. I am who I am today, because of her. I was the lucky one. For 27 years I got to be very close to her. |
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But the things you said about her here are a great tribute to her & the life she lived. It's obvious she was una mujer de gran calidad. My prayers are w/you. Skip the drugs if you can. It's always been odd to me that Western cultures are the only ones on the plant that medicate people when they're grieving. Mouring shdn't last any longer than grief. But how you grieve/& how long it takes you/are nobody's business but yr own. |
The drugs are only a temporary thing. I have gone into a major depression over this, and this is to help me to function while we finish things up. Then I will quit taking them. I promise. Fortunately, I am still able to grieve even with them. I can still feel the pain and sorrow, but it is just more under control. It is hard to lose the closest person to. She was truly my best friend (outside of my hubby of course). I will be allright. I just need time. |
We told Hayley that Punkin was her cat now. She is doing great, talking to him, offering to feed him, etc. etc. Micki is trying to comfort him. The kids are being great. |