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someone other than my ex wife. It went well, I had a good time, I but I don't think she's into me. (She ditched right after dinner, which was two hours of lively conversation, because she had to get up at 5am.) Maybe I read too much into her attitude, but I'll let her call me if she wants to, and won't initiate. She's cute, funny, and also a software geek. I was a touch nervous but I don't think I made a fool of myself. :) And it's perfectly fine if she doesn't want another date. I only met her because a mutual friend invited me to her party, then the friend left before I got there. The mutual friend was trying to set us up (she told me so) and I was upfront about not being ready for dating, but I figured what the hell. But I'm still not completely ready, and hence my willingness to let things die on the vine if she doesn't call me back. If she does, who knows? :) |
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Left after dinner because she has to get up at 5am = she's an adult. But you should call her because you'll probably have a new friend if you do. |
A friend of mine wanted to hire me to do him a part-time job on data analysis. The funny thing was that, I haven't held two different job for the last eight years. So, I decided to give myself a try. As of right now, I am watching;" Wives with knives". |
not want them is not my thing. :) If she wants a new friendship that's cool, but I won't push it. |
something else. Find something you want to do anyways that would be more fun with her and see if she wants to come along. That's not pushing it, I don't think, just giving it a chance. She might not know that you enjoyed the first date otherwise, and she can always say no if she's not interested. Cause who knows, maybe she's shy too? |
wants a man who will sweep her off her feet. I don't feel particularly motivated to sweep someone off their feet when they express no overt interest in me. |
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sure. I'm just a sap who wants people to put themselves out there because of that chance that it might be great. Plus, I think that a lot of people have a hard time doing that - myself included, which means that most of my relationships/flings would not have happened if the other people hadn't pushed a little extra to make sure their interests were clear. My current boyfriend is the exception to that. I know that he appreciates the fact that I let him know I was interested at the start of our relationship, since he was the shy one. He let me know he was plenty interested soon enough. So my opinions have more to do with that than with your particular situation, since I obviously don't have that much to go on. |
preview. Is it because I use chrome? |
Anyway, I'm not ready for a relationship. That's partly what makes me not want to pursue her, but mostly it's that I have absolutely no tolerance for games these days. |
Hearing that..... yeah. Ew. More than anything, do what you're comfortable with, but if there's something you want that makes you a little uncomfortable, go for it. |
me nervous, which made me talkative (for me) which meant I actually carried on a real conversation. A win/win! |
Well, both parts of what she said actually. |
Life is short dumdum. |
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I've already told her many times I enjoyed her company and that she can call me any time. When it comes to relationships I believe in equal rights and not forcing myself on women. If she wants to be around me she'll have to show the minimum of enthusiasm. Otherwise what's the point? |
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Antigone, It is some kind of attention that she wanted to get something from you, like a stalker did that to me. I personally and honestly don't know what's in her mind. but am afraid of that lady who been doing this to me. You know, in Illinois, citizens can now carry concealed gun. By that time when I am done with work, I get in the car, I drive car fast like hell to get home quickly as possible. |
constructive then fuck off. |
OK, but it sounds like you might be excusing your passivity or fear of rejection as "equal rights." As you wish, but how is that "equal rights"? And what makes you think this person, or anyone, wants you to grant them those "rights"? You said you might not be ready. Sounds like you're trying to get ready. You will be. |
time with someone, let them know. If you don't, then don't. Waiting for someone to contact you first is silly. --- If I had only known that as a teenager.... |
went out on a date. Is it so odd to expect her to reciprocate? Maybe I should just badger her until she responds, but then I'd be creepy, right? |
women's lives, even if they're not wanted? |
terrible arguments. Bonus: I don't even care. Fuck on. Hired you to what, pepper? What kind of data are we talking about? |
Good luck with your problems. |
adding that to the conversation, however. I guess I'm not afforded the same freedoms. Ponder that. |
adding anything constructive. |
have it. I should not have been ableist - I apologize for using the word lame. |
Delphi? And "dumdum" is the truth? |
Dumdum was not any kind of truth, I just imagine my friend Val saying it and it makes me smile. |
Ponder what? Another expression of passivity? You're not afforded freedoms? By whom? Your words here express passivity. You want someone to call you. Or maybe not. Someone has to afford you freedoms. Those are passive statements. If you don't like me pointing this out, well that's a problem for you, I suppose. No offense intended. As I said, good luck. Sounds like you're going through a rough time. If being argumentative makes you feel better, knock yourself out. |
words. You got to interpret my actions as passivity, and did so again just now. Yet you don't accept when I interpret the meanings of your words. I was active. I asked her out on a date, picked the restaurant, engaged her at the date, then told her she could call me whenever she liked. If she doesn't accept that I interpret it as her not being interested in me. Is that so wrong? That makes me passive? I simply don't accept that. It means i treat her as an adult woman who doesn't need her hand held, doesn't need my prodding. She can make her own decisions, and I accept those decisions. Maybe I should make decisions for her? |
you purposefully misinterpreted my words to be argumentative. i could speculate as to why, but that's your problem and you're not paying me. if that's what you need, have fun with it. whatever you need, have fun with it. what do you care what some stranger online thinks? you don't need me to give you permission for anything. i'm fat and gay and won't admit it. and i don't hang around here regularly so someone else might have to take over this conversation, but i do wish you health and happiness, and as i said in my first message...sounds like you might not be ready for a relationship yet but you will be. i'm not arguing with or attacking you. if you need an argument to get your rocks off, start a political thread or something. |
one on TV. :) |
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job. Group hug. My last post is half about this thread and half reminding myself that I should go the fuck outside and do things and stuff. Maybe find some friends to invite to a birthday party because I'm not going to have one by sitting around and playing Everquest 2 all the time. |
If she hasn't called by now I think she is waiting for you to call her. |
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Don't call. Until you want to. |
want to see her again. When I got back into the dating scene, the only women I went out with more than once who clearly indicated their interest, via text, email or phone. I did go on kind of a dating spree, so I was fine with lots of first dates that didn't go anywhere. I think it's completely fine to have a good first date and move on. |
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this is the most animated the boards have been since someone last had a baby with two heads and came out spewing fuck you you ass. Thanks for the diversion. I didn't think anyone dated anymore. @ la, it's Everclear. |
How's the dating going? |
know-it-all-cis-white-dudes I can't even tell you CAN'T FUCKING EVEN TELL YOU FUCK YOU I am telling you And in parallel, somewhat sick of myself |
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Just look around. |
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Bro. |
gimme that old time irreligion |
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about as non-bro as they come. But hey, stereotype all you like. |
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Well, anyway, I am looking forward for a nice weekend, this whole week been cooler all due to polar vortex. Thanks Canada! |
half in a non-seperable fashion. |
I knew my warehouse manager is up to no good for some of us. Few had quitted their job previously, it is all pointed out to the lady who spend too much time gluing her eyes at the screen and not doing anything. |
"know-it-all-cis-white-dudes", a 71 year old woman had told me that a lot of the world's problems would be solved by killing all the men. |
A world of only women sounds like a nightmare. |
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let's be honest. |
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the flesh and the devil |
They're coming to take me away. Those nice young men in their bright white coats! |
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my recommendation is to stop dating white dudes. on average, you'll likely cut out about 50% of the know-it-all, and 100% of the white. you'll likely gain about 75% more respect. the rest is probably all the same. our long-time babysitter - who is more like family - finished nursing school, got a good job, has a new apartment, and started dating. sunday night i sat down with her and she showed me what her endless list of prospects are on her plenty of fish app. it was horrifying, and i felt badly for her, because she's got it going on in almost every respect. but she's 26 and that's probably a very different thing. (love you.) |
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where everybody works part-time. when i came, a woman whose shift was ending was telling her replacement about a man who had come in earlier. he's a cross dresser, and used to come to the store all the time. he's short, around 50, of asian descent. he's a housekeeper, and everybody who employs him allows him to wear a maid's outfit while he does his job. these are generally older women, and they let him go through their old clothes (dresses, etc.) and take anything that catches his eye. so his look tends to be "retro", which is one of the looks we cater to. he always came in when a woman named shelly was working here, but she's gone. so his sudden appearance after two years absence (he was in houston) kind of freaked out the woman working here today, who didn't know about him. she was nice to him, and helped him and all that; but here is this woman in her mid-fifties who suddenly finds herself helping a man find a dress to try on. our boss thought it was hilarious. |
But anyway, I thought your boss, Mickie,(did I spell her name right?) wanted to sell her business, because she was being fed up after someone who came in boutiqe store and put much of clothes and took off on a company car? |
do a search for "Stella's Fort Worth". |
As an old white dude. I find that comment about giving up white dudes somewhat offensive. Your advice should be to give up jerks. They come in all races, ages, etc. It is usually very easy to spot a jerk. |
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i absolutely intended for that to be offensive. because this isn't facebook. i'm gonna party like it's 1999. and anyway, heather didn't say she was sick of dating jerks. |
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love to Sarah. |
Fort Worth. Maybe we'll pop in next visit |
worth. probably one of those "grin and bear it" obligations. still, any time. |
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in today's (local) paper, there was an article that mentions two studies done by two big-time universities: one that called fort worth the least funny city in america, and another that found us one of the least happy. you, me and JusHisElf can all be miserable and humorless together. rave on, children. i'm wit'cha rave on, cats--he cried it's almost dawn and the cops are gone let's all get dixie fried |
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or twice a year for the foreseeable future. Last visit we hit the Kimbell art museum and Fuzzy's Tacos. |
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Fort Worth is Worth It http://bit.ly/1qy9qOt |
sauce let me know when you'll be in town. We can have a little sorabjifest. |
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think i have quite the "sauce" i once had. honestly, i like it here in fort worth...in my own strange, reclusive way. but, on the internet, to be a texan is to be saddled with all the usual assumptions of being an intolerant, gun-happy, racist bastard. elf, so you're marrying a fort worth girl? don't know if you're planning to have kids; but if you do, do what my father did. let me start by saying that i spent my first 12 years on this earth in rhode island. my father is an r.i. native, my mother's a fort worth girl. once my sister and i were around and old enough to travel, he discovered that he need never go back to texas again. as long as the gran'kids got there, he could stay home. my sister and i spent the 70's making a trip every summer to fort worth, sometimes driving the entire 1600 miles in my grandfather's van, sometimes being put on a plane with no adult supervision. those were the days. |
Being with grandparents beats boredom. Because my mom didn't have the job until she was divorced from her husband. I lived in a bored way, because we didn't have enough money. They never bother sending us to summer camp or have extracircular activity to keeps us from being bored during the summer. I felt my life was useless. when I was down there. My grandmother had two activities for me: a short summer school and weekday swimming in the afternoon. she kept me active. Sunday was my favorite times together with them, it is either food store or going out to eat. Other than that, sometimes they go out to flea market. I love those places with antiques and junks. I was told that Texas has the best place where people come all over from other states to visit. Why is that my brother's dog, Custer comes in my room every morning checking on me? |
weird. probably the best times of my childhood were the trips to texas, especially the road trips. it was interesting to experience the change of america - accents, landscape, etc. - at such a young age. and my grandfather was the kind of guy who had to stop at all of the historical markers or whatever seemed interesting or educational. i remember visiting the amish region in pennsylvania, washington d.c., a tour of a cigarette factory in virginia, things like that. and a steady diet of vienna sausages, which he always kept in the van. my grandfather was heavily into flea markets, too. maybe it's a texas thing. they're sort of an institution, but maybe not like it used to be. though next to the little shop i work in is a junk shop run by a woman known as junkerval. it's only open on weekends, but it's kind of a hip spot: lots of high school kids, hipsters, and the odd bit of the lgbt community. maybe custer just likes you. |
Texas almost-step-family. No plans for more kids right now, but we will keep bringing the girls down to Fort Worth regularly. I'm looking forward to when the novelty wears off a little and they can spend the bulk of their time running around outdoors. |
better a boredom of texas than fear and loathing, i always say. |
and black male/female names. one of the most white female names listed is heather. my real name is michael, and my name is on neither the most white nor most black list. |
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