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I have a question: have any of you people ever deliberately tried to break up an existing couple because you wanted to be with one of them? |
why move from san francisco, where there is always true love, to any other place where there might not, hey, probably won't, be? |
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My dad's advice to me was not to date people who I have "chemistry" with cause you can't trust chemistry and "you could have chemistry with a serial killer" which started me thinking that maybe I am confusing chemistry with true love. I sure do like chemistry, though. |
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what, you just make sure that the person fulfills certain criteria.... i don't get it |
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when a boy that I was really Really hooked on was with another girl I considered trying to break them up (it wouldn't have been that hard, they were on shaky ground to begin with), but I thought I would be so consumed with guilt that I would have to eventually confess and he would want nothing more to do with me. did anyone else try to break people up for their own benifit? |
but i don't think i've ever been very interested in someone who wasn't interested in me, so if i knew that they were actually with someone else- first, i wouldn't assume that they were interested in me to begin with, and if they obviously were i would probably be wary of them. |
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hey sheila. in another few months i may be read for shopping in sacramento. what do you say? |
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but i forget where it is. somewhere in sacto. good duck. love that duck. mm. duck. |
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I only did that shit once: Freshman year of college. But the guy blatantly came after me/even tho' everyone on campus knew he'd been w/the same girl for 2 years. He said he had worked it out w/his girl & she'd agreed to let him do as he pleased. And I told him I didn't want him qo quit her for me/becuz ultimately I knew it wdn't work out btwn us. (He obviously liked the subservient type/which I was not). But we cd hang out as long as both of us were having a good time & as long as he understood that I wasn't giving him an exclusive on me becuz/since he already had a girl. So I got to spend my Freshman year screwing a Junior & getting shown around Boston by someone who knew all the cool places to hang out. And dating whomever else struck my fancy in between. The guilt phase lasted abt 2 wks. When she knocked on his dorm room door one nite & she saw me sitting on his bed/after having seeing me in the dining hall w/him the previous nite/I knew she knew what time it was. If she chose to stay w/him/I decided she deserved whatever she was willing to put up with. And the guilt evaporated. But I will say this: When you convince a man to leave his woman for you/all you end up w/is a no-count bastard who cheats. So it's better not to poach/becuz that shit is juts plain Wrong. We as women are always bitching abt how men are dogs & they just won't do right. But the sad truth is/they one's they're cheating w/are other women. If Sisterhood is really going to be Powerful/we've got to respect ourselves & other women enuf to just say NO when some other woman's man comes sniffing around. But Sheila's right abt 1 thing: Most of the time/they end up right back w/the wife or girlfriend. Becuz they've done that shit before & she's the type who puts up w/it. P.S. I say hold out for true love, Pumpkin. You're over 30/so you've prolly had yr share of 'what-the-fuck-was-I-thinking?' affairs. And you've prolly seen more than a few couples who married in haste & repented in divorce court. Not everyone is looking for a Soul Mate/but if you're one who is/remember that real love shows up in it's own good time. And the Real RIght thing is always worth the wait. All you have to lose by waiting is a lot of potential heartache & aggravation from various Mr. Wrongs. And the possibility of catching something nasty if you're careless. Who needs that shit? |
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plus that just seems kinda childish, school yard shit, ya know. by the way, we went on a super shopping spree this weekend with our xmas bonus money we have been hording.........scored a new technics receiver, vcr and a new pair speakers to round out my master super stereo, surround living room. Ok, seriously, my phono output on the old receiver was going to shit, my vcr was old, with no remote and mono to boot. Needless to say we have been enjoying our day off watching movies, listening to records. I don't normally get my rocks off on tech shit, but damn if doesn't sound good, plus i like playing and tweaking with all the various pro logic settings.......finally i can listen to my records without a fuzz in the left channel |
I know all of the reasons not to break people up, and I don't really REALLY want to. But it is fun to think about.... R.C. I just wanted to say thanks for the encouragement, it's what I was looking for. I hope you read this. It is hard to hold out when you want love and companionship so badly. And it is such a fertile pool for mistakes. I think I need to make some friends up here, but Christ it is hard to find people that I have anything in common with, well thank god for the internet. |