[prelude: i'll be asking for advice at the bottom of this post.] hey, i think us folks in hawaii are finally catching up with the mainland. suddenly there are all these people who want to hire me. so while i'm in my bosses office this afternoon officially resigning from my job, someone calls me at work. i retrieve the message. it's Kamehameha Schools. they want to interview me for a job as their communications specialist. i call back. we set up an interview on wednesday. is this ethical? i feel guilty. i haven't started my new job yet, though i'm supposed to start on april first. the problem is that this new interview could be a very attractive job, in the private sector, but with a heavy red tape organization. native hawaiian shit. things take so long in hawaii as it is... by the time they'd decide to hire me, i would be starting my new job downtown. i just can't imagine walking in there and saying, you can hire me, but you'll have to act fast and also pay me a shitload of money. doesn't seem like the right kind of attitude to have. but again, it could be a more attractive job overall. wow. so this is what it's like.

Yep. You've got to go for the best job. Employers are frustrated, but they understand. Besides, you might get your potential employers into a bidding war, and that's always gratifying.

although i would have a hard time following this advice, i would say to the interviewer that you have another offer that you need to let know by a certain date, and leave it at that. if they want you bad enough, they will get their shit together. employment at will, dammit!

It's a jungle out there. Be Jane.

I wish I hadd your folks' problems. i dread looking for my next job, I really do.

does anyone remember the story I told about the boy I made out with? he'd forgotten what my name was and I teased him and wouldn't tell him what it was and then blah blah we made out and he said "I still don't know what your name is!" and I wasn't going to, but I told him what it was. He forgot my name again. Can you beleive that? I thought it was funny at the time, but now I'm kind of offended. I can't beleive he forgot my name after I made out with him. I remember the name of every boy I've ever kissed. What a big jerk.

kick him in the nuts. i'm unemployed. drunk by noon. life is good. and the bong.

He'll definitely remember your name if you kick him in the nuts. In Wisconin, the cops can enter your house without a warrant if they claim they smelled marijuana. Now I can never smoke in this state.

I couldn't remember the name of every woman I've slept with, let alone kissed. And that's only counting the ones who bothered to tell me their names in the first place. This is a normal guy thing. At least you don't have to worry about him calling you up drunk at 3am.

it's not anormal guy thing. i remember all 4 of the women i have slept with, mostly because they knocked my socks off in more ways than one. but guys like you often refer to us as wuss's.

Nate -- unemployed? I thought you got an offer. Only in the fives/as opposed to yr usual sixes/but okay enuf to be worth leaving yr present gig for. So what happened? [And Swine -- you asked me to email you & I did. I got yr card in response to mine/but did you wanna talk or did you just want my address?] Sarah: Definitely do the interview at the Kamehameha Schools. I dunno if you dig academia/or if yr big dream is to be a web designer. But at least see what they're offering. And if it's more $$ & better bennies & you like the set up/take the job at the school. Screw the web design offer. It's a sellers market now/so go for yours.

What the fuck with 'it's a normal guy thing' to forget names of people you have been physically intimate with? You mean it's a normal guy thing to be an trampy ass?

bad kung fu, grasshoppa. very, very bad kung fu.

If you have slept with over 20 women I think it's ok to forget a few names. I bet several guys don't even remember girls they had sex with at all -like totally forgot getting laid. Not me. I even remember the two when I was really really drunk. and the other two girls when I was sober. let me clarify - I have had sex more than four times. At least 15 times. Isn't honesty wonderful? You may proceed to kick me in the head now.

i have this way of needing to chart things like somehow i will see a pattern and it will mean something so i made a list of people (a long time ago) along with other symbols to help me remember specific things

I was a sailor before AIDS was en vogue. So sue me.

And yes, Dinner Lady, "Trampy Ass" would have been a very apt description for those days. Now lighten up and lose self-righteous pretense.

*yawn*

yeah, we have heard all about "The Navy" there mr. simon.....