Second time around?


sorabji.com: I need advice: Second time around?
By Cat on Sunday, June 25, 2000 - 05:37 am:

    Ok..my ex-ex boyfriend showed up today, bought me a plant for my new garden (which he knows is the way to my heart), and said he wanted to try again.

    The thing is last time it ended badly when I didn't want to get married and he did. I just couldn't imagine myself talking to him for the rest of my life. I mean, he hates reading anything that isn't connected with sport.

    We did have some things in common, but there weren't any lights flashing or sirens blaring. But he is a joy compared with my last relationship...(think restraining order etc).

    Now I'm thinking..."maybe I want too much". Then I hit myself for even THINKING of settling for less than everything.

    He swears he won't bring up marriage...but shit, I don't know...how long will that last? And even if we get back together, it's not being very fair to him, is it?


By J on Monday, June 26, 2000 - 02:41 am:

    What the hell,at least give him a chance.


By Tj on Monday, June 26, 2000 - 12:45 pm:

    That's what J said


By Tj on Monday, June 26, 2000 - 12:46 pm:

    ex-ex boyfriend, does that not mean he has already had a second chance?


By semillama on Monday, June 26, 2000 - 12:54 pm:

    If he wanted to get married once, he probably still does. Make it clear from the get-go that there is no chance of marrriage,and see how long he sticks around.


By Cat on Sunday, July 2, 2000 - 10:53 pm:

    Semillama...you were right, alas. Took a week. I really have to wise up where men are concerned. I must have missed that class at college.