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If you let someone onto the elevator before you (gesturing with your arm for them to go ahead of you), would you prefer they thank you or not? |
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I just want to know whether or not I should say anything or not. I don't think they're checking out my ass (not with the clothes I wear), I think they're just being polite. So is it polite for me to acknowledge their gesture, or is it crass? |
that might be a little too much |
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OK, so, polite? Got it. |
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i ride elevators every day and this is a common practice of mine, to allow women to enter and exit the elevator before me. yes, to scope asses and play the gentleman as well. i dont see any reason not to say a very subtle 'thank you', but I wouldnt be offended or put off if you didnt. Eye contact and a quick smile are also a good acknowledgement. |
I've read Emily Post's book from the 1930s, and a few other old guides, like one for young women in the military during WWII. I think etiquette is neat. |
Thanks, Patrick. I'll continue to say thank you, or smile. |
Rubbing up against their thigh is better. |
other days, im more inclined to make small talk, say thanks, smile and bid them a good day. it just depends on how you feel. |
myself thinking: if this were the 50's men would always be offering me a seat on a crowded train- me and other women and older folks. then i realize that in the 50's i'd probably be one of only a couple women on transit in rush hour, and this is better. then i think about the giving and the taking and the pros and cons of change and equality and... you don't really want to hear where this goes. |
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It is ingrained in me. And, I always appreciate a smile or thank you. |
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i love and appreciate old fashioned chivalry, always. sometimes i say thank you, sometimes i just smile and nod appreciatively. one time in hawaii a guy held the door open for me at a 7-11. he was going in and i was coming out. without realizing it or thinking about it, i just pushed open the other door and let myself out, and he got offended and but was good natured about it and said something in a joking manner to me, like "sheeeesh! i was trying to e polite!" and then i realized he was holding the door for me and i had to apologize and explain that i just am a ditz and wasn't paying attention. then he made me go back inside and exit through the door he held open. i thought that was funny and it made my day. |
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I strongly believe that "consideration" is the main keyword here. In Klang, it is not rare to find some joker smoking in an air-conditioned restaurant, cinema, etc. You will also be surprised to find inconsiderate drivers parking and driving their cars indiscriminately. Perhaps a research on why people in Malaysia (especially this sub-urban areas) behave in such a disgusting manner should be conducted. |
A thank you is ALWAYS appropriate. It shows that you recognize & appreciate that a courtesy has been extended to you. It also shows you have good manners. And if the guy's are checking out your ass, so what? No Harm Done, as long as they keep their comments to themselves. - RC |
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