Hey, you guys. Is it wrong to be miserable because you know the person you love had the all time best sex of their life with the person they dated before you? I know it's stupid to be obsessive about it, but I keep thinking that maybe if I lost weight he would be more attracted to me and then the sex would be hotter, or maybe if I worked out I could be more athletic. I'm not very imaginative. I feel really depressed. I wish I didn't care. It's really such an unimportant thing. And it's not like the sex is BAD. This is what comes of dating your friends. You know things about their lives you wouldn't know (and they'd have the sense not to offer up) if you just met them.

I don,t know if it,s bad,but as a woman,that would sure upset me!!! Did he mention why it was the best with this other person?

it's understandable, and easy to overcome with butt loads of hash. seriously, the kink cometh with excessive tokes and a fun Vodka Surprise (copyright PM 00).... if you care to try something different..... pour in THIS order 3 shots of tonic 2 shots of vodka fill remainder of glass with pink lemonade/raspberry juice mix (made from 2 seperate frozen concentrates) lime no stir or mix needed, drink mixes itself.... yummy! OR try the element of surprise......guys love surprise, with some work you might be able to make the top of the list....otherwise it's not worth the fuss....

you don't want to be the best, do you? i mean, that's a lot of pressure in the long run. hard to maintain something like that. (right sheila?) look at it this way - you can have fun learning how to be even better than the woman before you. if you want to, that is. or you can just relax and be yourself and have fun with him in your own way. listen to me. telling you not to be depressed over sex.

I also don't buy the bit about you not being imaginative.......

just punch him in the face and then tell him to put it in your ass.

Oh Nate. Boy does the cheer me up! I can do that way easier than I can lose 25 lbs. Plus, now I'm laughing.

Yes -- Nate always give very succinct advice for the sexlorn. Don't get performance anxiety, Margret. Look at it as an excuse for the 2 of you to fuck like jackrabbits/since you need the practice. P.S. Weight/athleticism/etc. usually don't have very much to do w/the quality of the screw. The bset sex generally happens when: 1) you're madly in love w/someone who loves you back & makes you feel secure enuf to try absolutely anything in bed. 2) you get to lay someone incredibly good-looking that you've fantazised abt for months. So, if his ex looks like Carmen Electra/then you've gotta problem. But if he was severly in love w/her/then you just have to give it time. (How long has it been since they broke up?) You get yr Marvelous Margret Mojo working & 4 mos. from now/he'll barely remember what that chick was like in bed. Sex is no fun if you're worried abt being scored on yr performance. Forgetabtthisother chick. Now, he's with YOU. That's what counts.

remember, your greatest sexual organ is between your ears, not between your legs. As R.C. demonstrated on the "Guess Who?" thread.

of course, if you were to punch me in the face and tell me to put it in your ass, it would be the best sex of my life.

that would be margret, not you sem. sorry.

ROFLMBAO! Nate, man.... Over & over again/you just make my day. Y'know that?

right now oooopps..... there i go again aaaaahhhhh..... and..... again