Well, once again I say... every scenario is different because the people involved are different. As for how commited we were (are) that doesn't matter much if we don't have a title (married/engaged..) it's how you _feel_ about each other and how you consider yourself to be commited. If I love him, he loves me, and we have an understanding of what kind of a relationship we have, I don't care if we don't have a piece of paper that _says_ we're 'married' or not. There are just certain ways things go. Heh, and again I will say I was wrong in what I did. It wasn't right or fair of me to do. I did it out of frusteration/anger/hurt at not only that, but other situations. I'm just glad that I have the kind of boyfriend (whom I live with now) who took my throwing out those magazines as something being wrong and rather than blow up and go off on me, he took the time to see what I was feeling and why I did it. Not saying I went about it the best way, but *shrug* 'tis in the past. And despite how it may seem, I'm not a jealous, spiteful or overall 'bad' person. We all make mistakes and do foolish things. I still say this was pretty minor in the scheme of things. *shrug*

Oh wow, over a year later and my 'confessional' post is still here. *laughs* Crazy! Guess what.. my boyfriend and I are STILL TOGETHER. Neiner neiner neeeeeeiner. (I'm so mature, aren't I? <grin>) 3 years and goin strong. :) And I totally agree, throwing away something of someone elses is TOTALLY fucked up, no matter what it is or for what reason, and I can't believe I ever did that. Looking back on it now I should have just brought it to his attention, talked with him about the way it made me feel if it was bugging me that much, and just kind of gone from there. I'd be pretty upset if he went through my things and threw away something like old boyfriend's pictures/letters. And well.. I can't really be upset with him now for something like this either, considering I worked on a couple porn sites for awhile. <grin> (Doing web/graphic work, you naughty monkies!)

I'm kind of curious to read Playboy, but I'm too chicken to actually buy the magazine.

Don't bother. And don't bother with Taboo either, unless you like water sports. Jeez, all this fuss over Playboy. Try finding BDSM magazines at 13 with no other examples of what sex is like. It will mess you up.

I think it's all about respect - throwing out your boyfriends things - NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE - is not going to make him into the person you want him to be. Maybe you should talk with each other. If he wanted to be with Miss July, you'd be so out of the picture. I think women who are jealous of photos of women that their mates have never met have esteem issues. Conversely, my girlfriend can look at any man she wants - provided she still comes home with me. I am not just the sum of my looks (thankfully) - I got the cushy boyfriend job by being the REAL DEAL. So is your boyfriend only with you for the sex - or do you contribute something else to his life? And while I'm on the subject, is he good to you too? Or does he stuff you under the mattress?

So then what do you call the boyfriend who lies about having the Playboys and says that they aren't his and hides them (thinking you won't find them) and when you are at a club together his best friend walks up and talks to him about how you are the hottest chick in the bar and your boyfriends says that he just doesn't see it, and you aren't a supermodel, or Miss July? Would you say that is a problem on the part of the girlfriend or the boyfriend?

"lies about having the Playboys and says that they aren't his and hides them (thinking you won't find them)" Well, why does he lie? Does he lie because he is ashamed of why he has them or has she has indicated that she disapproves or it would make her feel jealous/insecure? "your boyfriends says that he just doesn't see it, and you aren't a supermodel, or Miss July" I think he's an ass if he says this, and he's got a problem. If she knows that this is going on, then she's got a problem.

holy crap sex on a triscuit.

It sounds like they're both assholes.

OK he told her last week that he wouldn't accept her kids. Says this after he proposed to her, but whatever. He told her that he wants her to date him and only him until he is ready to deal with the kids (one boy and one girls, both awesome kids) which would take 2-5 years. Then she talked to my friend here who is going to drive 12 hours to visit her in April even though he only met her once. She said that put it all in perspective for her and finally dumped the loser fiancee. There is so much more to the story, but needless to say, it is over. Thank God, finally over.

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