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spiracle, hi. page not found. how are you? |
found'....i tried putting in "lego" in the search and it popped up..oh well..it was cool... google: i lego n.y. i am apparently not the link-master :) doing fine..how are you? i haven't kept up much with these boards, how is your little one? |
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those are so creative, i love it. Turducken is 16 months old now, and i'm pregnant with baby girl #2, due in June. i posted on Facebook a video of her dancing. my sister (who has three kids under 5 years old) made a comment about how my living room now looks like hers. i love that my living room (and less so the Turducken's room) looks like a chaotic toy store. it doesn't bother me at all that her toys take up so much space, in fact, it seems very cheerful and makes me smile. it's fun to watch her dump the container of blocks on the floor and then windshield wiper her hands and feet across the pile so that they scatter to the corners. at the end of the day we pick everything back up (she's too little to do it herself yet), organize it neatly on her play mat, and then she gets to do it all over again the next day. are you still in Houston? what's new? |
biggest surprise, so far, about motherhood? I think you must embrace the chaos and clutter or else you'd drive yourself crazy, eh? Yep, still in Houston...new? hmm..seriously, not much... still have a gaggle of pets creating lots of furballs on a daily basis..being quite domestic lately, house, garden.. running into lovely little creative things here and there and angry at myself for being too lazy to do any of it myself...i feel like i need to exercise that muscle before it atrophies... i am never in a big hurry for anything which causes me to procrastinate everything..and i mean EVERYTHING...story of my life....it just passes by... i feel like i am spending my whole life contemplating why this is...why i can't react first and think later..(besides my mouth, which ironically, works the other way around) |
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there's definitely a sweet spot to be found between laziness and busyness. you see it as procrastinating and life passing by, but i envy your ability or your choice to let things go. the other side of that isn't much fun, and that's a ridiculously hectic life of trying to take care of everything all the damn time and always be trying to accomplish one goal or another. it seems like lately that describes our household, and it's exhausting. most everything about motherhood has been radically surprising. the most surprising thing of all in my experience so far is the intensity of the highs and the lows, the rawness and power of the emotional attachment. it's a huge, glorious, sometimes suffocating love that dwarfs the importance and relevance of everything outside of the realm of family by comparison. interestingly enough, inside of what feels like a very dramatic state of being is an unsurpassed depth of peacefulness, patience, and compassion i never knew was inside. granted it has yet to be tested by the Terrible Twos. they change so much so fast, which makes time seem to speed along even faster than usual, but all the while there are these slow motion moments in day to day life, and i find i can appreciate so much more the juiciness and of those moments, and re-experience the simplicity of childhood again. pardon if i make motherhood sound like a zen bed of roses, because it's a hard fucking job too. but that is no surprise at all. |
I really appreciate your thoughts on motherhood...thanks for sharing...I think not enough people are in touch with their lives, in general and are just going through the motions (or just appear to ? maybe it's all that lack of sleep)...i can tell you aren't...... why i can let things go by? in general, a combination of being lucky enough to have most of the people around me not putting too much pressure on me-myself included...and somewhat getting over what the big fat world thinks of what I should be doing...that's an ongoing inner struggle... i guess, also, i tend to keep the people that i am particularly close to, limited....which can be a bit more peaceful but also a bit lonely at certain times... I admire you for being a mom...i imagine it's possibly the hardest thing in life... |
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i'm not sure it's so hard for everyone. maybe it depends on how seriously you take the job, or rather, maybe it depends on your level of commitment. making the commitment has been very liberating. and i guess not just the commitment to my daughter, but my marriage too. committing to them hasn't made me feel at all limited or boxed in. it has freed me from nearly all existential questioning. it has liberated me from a selfishness bordering on narcissism. this little person didn't ask to be brought into the world. i feel like it's my responsibility to do right by her. to me that's much more than loving her and keeping her safe. that's what makes it so hard. if i didn't care so much, i'd think that motherhood would be nothing more than a new set of chores added on. |
Just wanted to add that Sarah... |
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thanks for that, Daniel. congrats on your pending nuptials. |