The person I've gone clubbing with for the last 14 months, and we've been going to the same club every Saturday for the last 10 months, didn't show up last night. He was doing a lot of coke last weekend and, despite my warnings, starting to get into meth. He doesn't understand how meth hits you and he did too much last weekend and had to sit down for a couple hours, and he disappeared this weekend, and I'm afraid I may have lost my only friend for 3000 miles. (and we were once more than friends and I don't know if he's alive now) Jesus Christ, I won't be mad at him for blowing me off if he'll just please be alive. |
Give him til tomorrow afternoon/then stop by his crib if you haven't heard from him by then. You don't wanna go calling the cops just yet. If they find him somewhere high as a kite/he'll get in trouble & be pissed off at you forever. Everyone's entitled to a lost weekend or two. |
But we have gone to that club together every single Saturday for the last 10 months & we split up 7 months ago, & we still haven't missed a night, unless it was to go somewhere else, or with advance notice. I don't know until 3:00 b/c he can reasonably be expected to sleep in until then. From experience, he usually doesn't answer the phone before then...and he doesn't check his voicemail unless I remind him to, and he doesn't have voicemail on his home line anyway, so no hope there. I emailed, him but that only works if he goes to work b/c he's still having to deal with all the bullshit the landlords want him to do before he can get a dataline put in the apt. (I used to live with him there, so I know) I'll stop by his place after 3:00 to see if his car is there. He *always* goes home after going out (except once, the night I met him, and that was b/c he was mad at the ex-girlfriend who was living with him & since I moved out, he lives alone) b/c when he's on stimulants, he sometimes starts stressing and he needs familiar surroundings & otherwhise, he just needs to be home. (& I know he's extremely unlikely to pick anyone up, he's not good with strangers, & he has a lot of issues with women & even if he did, he'd take her home with him, rather than the other way around, b/c he needs familiar surroundings) I just worry b/c he has serious depression, and suicidal ideation, and b/c he doesn't know any better than to mix meth and sleeping pills, and shit like that, even though I tell him, he doesn't listen to me since we split up (& we're still friends & maybe a little closer to getting back together lately, & I just can't lose him twice). & I'm just worried b/c I'm not sure I trust the guy he's been getting the stuff from...but then he never did save any for breakfast...I used to have to hide some from him when he had to get up the next day and present it to him in the morning. I was trying to get through to him from 8:00 on last night and he didn't answer, and maybe he's just in a snit, Christ, I hope he's just in a snit. & I'm worried b/c he has 3 kids & he always calls them on Sundays & esp. today, even if they don't have Father's Day in the UK (where he's from), his kids were born here & I'm worried b/c I don't even know if he's provided for them or if his life insurance is still set up to go to his former business partner who screwed him out of his half of the business & his ex-wife has remarried & has 2 more kids & I don't know how well her new husband is going to care for his little ones, or whether he can afford to support 5 kids, esp. in the style to which they're accustomed (he's a programmer & 2/3 of his income currently goes to them.) &I'm really upset by the whole thing b/c I still have feelings for him. |
Thank the Gods. I finally got ahold of him. He missed me b/c he stopped by much earlier than usual. He's going to come see me Monday after work (he's feeling pretty worn out today). He is starting to bend on the pager issue (I want him to get one b/c he tends to be incommunicado for long periods of time). He may be starting to bend on the crank issue, which is more important. |
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And Lucy: Do yr boy a favor -- call him 1st thing Monday & MAKE HIM UPDATE HIS LIFE INSURANCE! People let that kind of shit slide becuz it's so easy to forget. But if anything happens to him/he wants any benefits to be paid to his kids/so he's gotta update the paperwork NOW. |
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i long to be a doped up housewife |
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I can't really post on it from work. RE: meth...I agree that it's bad for you. RE: insurance. I checked. He has actually taken care of it (I've been nagging him for a while. I guess I finally irritated him into doing it) |