I've decided to give it a first-time try. Can you help me out?


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By Scott on Friday, July 24, 1998 - 03:09 am:
    Hi. I'm Scott. I posted way earlier on this board as never having had sex. (It generated quite a discussion too. I appreciated the comments that were written honestly.) It's true. I'm 28 and stil a virgin. Now, I think I'm ready to give it a go. I really feel okay about trying it.

    The problem is, I've surrounded myself with puritanical influences and friends, and I have nobody whosoever that I would like to, or could, have sex with.

    Can any of you give me suggestions? Do you know anyone in the Salt Lake City area who would be nice and kind and patient with me for a first time? I'm not a grossball. Or do you think that's the answer? I want it to be a good experience.

    Talk to me here. I'll be checking back.

By -oDDBALL oDD- on Friday, July 24, 1998 - 10:59 am:
    Have sex. Period. Be patient. Meet someone you can trust with your feelings. Have sex.

    I don't know of anyone that will have sex with you, though. There is plenty for everyone.

By Kelsey on Friday, July 24, 1998 - 06:24 pm:
    this is not the way to get sex, scott. first off, leave your computer and go out somewhere. take it from there. you will not get sex from word of mouth on the internet. well, at least not in the way you are going about it.

By Rambler on Thursday, July 30, 1998 - 12:12 pm:
    There is definitely nothing shameful about being a
    virgin at your age, and you shouldn't feel rushed
    to have sex. It isn't a goal that should be
    reached by a certain time, as some people seem to
    believe, but a beautiful thing that will happen
    when the time is right.
    Ideally, this is when you find someone you are
    truly, and immensely in love with, perhaps someone
    you'll be spending the rest of your life with. But
    the worse thing you can do is have sex for the
    sake of having sex and losing your virginity. I
    believe that sex is something you enjoy when you
    love someone, regardless of previous experience or
    knowledge. If they care about you enough, they
    won't mind if you are inexperience. In fact, there
    are many people who would respect you a lot more
    for maintaining your virginity for so long. It
    shows discipline.
    Think of it as a virtue, a purity that you can
    someday offer to someone whom you find to

By Been there done that on Friday, July 31, 1998 - 11:35 am:
    What a crock of shit Rambler is spewing! It seems as if the only action Rambler got is with the Nash variety. Scott...my advice is to get laid as much as possible before you get married. And I mean with as many different partners as possible. Then have as much sex as possible with the person you are thinking of marrying before marriage. You don't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on right? What if you are incompatible with the potential missus? What if she doesn't enjoy the same things you find important in bed? Find these things out ahead of time. There are still disappointments but give yourself the opportunity to find out what you really enjoy about sex first. ALWAYS ALWAYS protect yourself. This is key!

By Momo on Friday, July 31, 1998 - 11:39 am:
    I somehow doubt a freewilling person
    will just have sex with a stranger.
    Well, in these days you never know.
    Usually people "see" someone before
    getting to home, that way you get to
    know the person (make sure they
    are not ex-axemurderer, moron or a carrier
    of some disease). Good luck man, protection
    is a good idea too. Damn Crabs. :)


By Rye on Friday, August 14, 1998 - 03:27 am:
    You must hwack it all the time, man.


By Kathy on Monday, August 17, 1998 - 05:34 pm:

    There are sites out there where you can find people looking for partners of all kinds. Look into Adult Friend Finder and it will show you people in your area. And you can talk to them over the internet and see pictures of them too.At least you can find some one and kind of get to know them and see them first. Who knows you might even end up with the one you want for life!!


By Hal-1 on Monday, August 17, 1998 - 07:51 pm:

    I'm kinda disgusted....

    Rye, "Been There Done That", Grow the fuck up.

    Scott, good for you, some people don't have the patients to go that long with out sex. You are a person I can respect, you have perceverence. But a few people who have spoken here are right, you should go away from the computer, find someone to care for first, someone whom with to stay with, someone whom the relationship you have with is not purely sexual, I mean I'm sure you know what I'm talking about 28 years and no sex, you must be one of the most sensitive people on earth. So get to know someone, be their friend first, their lover second.


By PetRock on Tuesday, August 18, 1998 - 06:38 am:

    Jeez Hal....that's a pretty good philosophy for life...."be their friend first, their lover second."

    Ya know, I really like that....I'll have to give that a shot sometime myself.


By MAKE LOVE TO THE ONE YOU LOVE on Tuesday, October 13, 1998 - 12:26 am:

    Rambler is wonderful:i'll have sex with him anytime. if he is honest about the story he writ and said that in Public girls will jump Him LITERALLY!! SEX is not the same as making love!!
    sex=wham! bahhm! thank-you mam!!
    Making love=caressing one's bodies and feeling the heat through the sweat that can be licked because of the immense love the people's have for each other. MAKING LOVE is kissing one's body from head to toe and feeling the nervousness of each other, it's to plunge your uncertain body onto your partners and feel his inner strenghth,
    It's to kiss him all over until your mouth dries up and your lips crack of bleediness, it's to
    expierience the everlasting passionate heatness of one another
    FEELING HIM
    KNOWING HIM
    BREATHING HIM
    LOVING HIM


By MAKE LOVE TO THE ONE YOU LOVE on Tuesday, October 13, 1998 - 12:30 am:

    Rambler is wonderful:i'll have sex with him anytime. if he is honest about the story he writ and said that in Public girls will jump Him LITERALLY!! SEX is not the same as making love!!
    sex=wham! bahhm! thank-you mam!!
    Making love=caressing one's bodies and feeling the heat through the sweat that can be licked because of the immense love the people's have for each other. MAKING LOVE is kissing one's body from head to toe and feeling the nervousness of each other, it's to plunge your uncertain body onto your partners and feel his inner strenghth,
    It's to kiss him all over until your mouth dries up and your lips crack of bleediness, it's to
    expierience the everlasting passionate heatness of one another
    FEELING HIM
    KNOWING HIM
    BREATHING HIM
    LOVING HIM


By Dave on Thursday, October 15, 1998 - 11:54 pm:

    hwarf

    splat

    groan


By Agatha on Friday, October 16, 1998 - 02:13 am:

    ats my guy...


By Goober98 on Tuesday, October 27, 1998 - 02:08 pm:

    Hey what's I am very lonely. LEave a message.

    Goober98


By Slacker on Tuesday, October 27, 1998 - 03:41 pm:

    message for goober98.

    eat my shorts


By Forgotten-sanity on Saturday, February 5, 2000 - 04:38 pm:

    *lol*


By Gaelwyn on Friday, April 20, 2001 - 12:17 am:

    Sex is sex. It is a physical experiance. Period. It is deeply rooted in our biological instincts. Humans have decided to put emotion behind it. But there is no such thing as "making love." It is not a physical act. It is a manifestation of what you are bring to the act of sex. I seriously think people make way to much of sex. Society on a whole has made it into some sort of spirital bond not to be cheaply given. Whatever. Society also make people ashamed of thinking about it, talking about it, or even acting on an impulse if they don't agree with the circumstances.

    Now, i am also a virgin (female) and could of had sex times before. (in fact most people think i am a whore.. i let them) But i feel no need to do so. If you want to... *great*! But don't make it in to something it isn't.

    Sex is Sex. Deal.

    P.S. If you are going to do it. Enjoy it. Who gives a fuck what others say!


By Nate on Friday, April 20, 2001 - 04:56 am:

    hey! you and i have something in common. we're both authorities on something we have no way in hell of knowing about.

    P.S. do you like the ren faire? H4224H!!!!!1111


By Bobby on Saturday, April 21, 2001 - 01:46 am:

    Reading Gaelwyn's post, I'm reminded of the good girl in the movie "Cruel Intentions."


By Nate on Saturday, April 21, 2001 - 03:26 am:

    except more 40, male, hairy, bald, sticky, stained and smoking marlboro reds.


By Me on Saturday, January 12, 2002 - 12:57 am:

    I know the message was posted over three years ago, but "Been there done that," you're an idiot. Relationships aren't about sex; they're about love. If you find someone you love and that loves you in return, you WILL be compatible in bed because the other will have a strong desire to please you. As long as people communicate fully in relationships, they'll either end before commitments are made or last forever.


By Fu on Monday, February 25, 2002 - 10:50 am:

    hehe you guys said sex


By Fb on Monday, February 25, 2002 - 04:07 pm:

    mmmmmmmmmm.....marlboro reds.......


By Major Poop on Monday, February 25, 2002 - 06:22 pm:

    soldiers best friend next to Playboy


By Dougie on Monday, February 25, 2002 - 06:48 pm:

    2 weeks to the day sans marlboro reds. I'd sell your mother for one.


By Fb on Monday, February 25, 2002 - 11:35 pm:

    it's your fault, i just broke down and bought a pack. smoked 2.....mmmmmmmmm so good.....think i'll have another.....YOU BASTARDS.....mmmmmmmm...


By Czarina on Tuesday, February 26, 2002 - 12:23 am:

    OOooooooh,Dougie,do you really think this is the time to quit,with the excitement of the house and all? Hang in there! [Swine n'll take the mom]

    Beav,I'll smoke to that!


By Fridgidbeaver on Tuesday, February 26, 2002 - 11:26 am:

    somebody release the "greenhouse gases"! it's snowing and only 17 degrees today. yesterday was 66 & sunny, we shot boxes of ammo. today sucks. we want global warming. we want it now.......


By Fb on Tuesday, February 26, 2002 - 11:18 pm:

    STOP SNOWING DAMMIT!!!


By Czarina on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 12:11 am:

    Its friggin COLD here,too.This is the fucking south,where o where are those sultry southern nights?


By eri on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 08:53 am:

    Exactly CZ. Of course, it is funny to watch people in the cold here. Warm up their cars and leave them running to warm up when it is 30 outside. Hee hee. Leave their faucets dripping so they don't freeze if the low is 32. Complain about not having a winter wardrobe at 50. I wish it wasn't so damned cold, though. I just got the key to the pool and I WANT TO USE IT!!!!! I bought a new bikini just for the occasion :(


By semillama on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 10:00 am:

    I think that if you have an outdoor heated pool,
    it should be open year round.

    It's actually snowing here and there is snow
    on the ground, which is maybe the third time
    I've seen that since I moved here.


By J on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 10:43 am:

    It's beautiful here today going to hit 80,wearing shorts even,of course,in a couple of months I'll be foaming at the mouth and bitching about the heat so I'm enjoying it now.Sat on my porch last night,had me a corona and just watched the most beautiful full moon.


By Bob King on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 01:59 pm:

    What the hell; I'll address the topic.

    1. Sex is not "making love." Sex is a skilled activity that needs to be learned. If you've never done it, ever, and you are not fumbling about with someone equally ignorant, then the results will probably be embarrassing, comical, or both.

    And while sex is not "making love", being a fucking incompetant can sure get in the way if you squeeze, pinch or twist the wrong thing to the wrong degree at the wrong place on the endorphin curve.

    Trust me.

    2. The stunts they show in pornos are just that: stunts. Stunts done by trained stunt perverts using camera tricks. In real life, we don't care if the cameraman gets the "money shot."

    3. THEREFORE: In order to learn how to use any tool, it's reasonable to consult a pro. Salt Lake is within convenient reach of clean, registered Nevada Brothels stocked with professionals who would likely be quite touched to be consuted on such an important matter.

    BTW, this is essentially what I did when I decided to devirginize myself; I did my research, hired a pro, tried ALL the things I read about in Penthouse Forum and then asked for a critique.

    Reasarch counts; I got a good review. But I sure wasn't gonna try it on someone I CARED about before I was pretty sure it was something I didn't have to think about!

    Oh: the most important piece of advice:

    "A gentleman never complains about hair between his teeth."


By patrick on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 02:27 pm:

    wow Bob.

    Thanks for setting us straight sir.

    The businesses will be pleased.


By take me on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 02:46 pm:

    bob king

    1. is a well-organized thinker.

    2. is meticulous and logical in research

    3. is very knowledgeable in the emotional and practical aspects of sex.

    4. must be really exciting in bed.

    5. is every woman's dream lay.


By Gee on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 02:55 pm:

    Sometimes I still feel like a virgin. apparently I even give off virgin-vibes, because people always ask me if I am one.

    I wonder what that means.


By Czarina on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 03:03 pm:

    Bob King seems rather anal to me.

    Thats just plumb silly to be so worried about performing well sexually,that he felt he needed to consult an "expert".

    To most people it just comes rather naturally.
    I think you worry too much,Bob.

    But your poetry advice was useable.


By Cat on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 03:57 pm:

    I wonder if Scott ever got his bonk on.


By Bob King on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:02 pm:

    Bob King likes anal.


By Anus on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:06 pm:

    Will you put it up my ass?


By Cat on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:13 pm:

    Does an anus have an ass?

    Does a bear have a catholic?

    Does a shit have a pope?


By J on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:15 pm:

    Does anyone have a answer?


By Bob King on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:29 pm:

    Bob King LOVES anal.


By Cat on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:35 pm:

    Bob King LUBES canals.


By Czarina on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:36 pm:

    Is Bob Kings anus a canal?


By Antigone on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:37 pm:

    Bob King needs a warm Sorabji welcome.

    Let the ass fucking commence!


By eri on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:40 pm:

    At least bob gets a warning!!!

    Cat, I know a shit who does have a Pope!


By Cat on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:42 pm:

    Traceshit is a cattle tick?


By eri on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:46 pm:

    No, not him, my ex.


By Cat on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 04:51 pm:

    Neener neener..you just called your hubby "Traceshit" by default.

    hehhehehheheheheh

    I'm in such a slap happy childish mood today.

    pokepokepoke

    lallalallallalalla


By eri on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 05:02 pm:

    I think I have already called him worse, and not by default. I think.


By patrick on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 05:34 pm:

    have you ever called him a "sniveling, snot-faced shit bag"?

    or perhaps an "ass-lipped fruitcake" or "pencil-dicked poindexter"??

    those would definitely be worse.


By Bob King on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 05:49 pm:

    Bob King commands you all to suck his fucknoodle.


By eri on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 05:55 pm:

    no, not any of those. But if it helps, we gave my sister a fruitcake just to make a point for her christmas present?

    See now I can't remember the lovely names I have called him during our fights. I can only remember the not so nice things I call him every day. Damn.

    Can I save pencil-dicked pointexter and ass-lipped fruitcake for later use? I am sure I can come up with some uses for those.

    Or are you trying to say something there Patrick?


By semillama on Wednesday, February 27, 2002 - 06:15 pm:

    Attention Bob King:

    The prairie squid is in the mail.

    Enjoy.


By Jay on Friday, March 1, 2002 - 10:16 pm:

    Just fly over to Amsterdam and get a "suck and fuck" it is only appr. $25

    And I am completely serious. If you disbeleive you have not looked into it. :-P

    J


By Daddyo540 on Sunday, December 22, 2002 - 02:01 pm:

    sex is GREAT do it as much as you can. I have 2 kids and I am forty... don need more kids I just like to practise as offten as I can


By Nate on Sunday, December 22, 2002 - 03:07 pm:

    grossball.


By Realdeal on Wednesday, January 22, 2003 - 11:45 pm:

    Yo what u need to do is go out and atleast give that first girl all 28 years that u have been saving up. There is no way u can not do well, cuz its going to feel so good ur first time that ull be able to do it over and over again. And at any time if u feel like ur not pleasing just act like u r in control. Make her think that u r in control of the situation and she is about to have the best experiance in her life. The more confident you are the better u will do.


By Wjierd on Thursday, January 30, 2003 - 10:06 pm:

    yeeeeeeehaw

    we gots tons of them prairie squid here in big d (the right honorable reverend ivan stang didnt chose dallas to be the headquarters for no reason)


By semillama on Friday, January 31, 2003 - 09:07 am:

    It ain't the headquarters no more. Now it's in Cleveland. I have yet to hear any reports on the different but equal pleasures of the freshwater giant squid that lurks at the bottoms of the Great Lakes.

    Plus, the holy PO box moved to Austin with Jesus and Mary.


By Your Friend on Monday, November 10, 2003 - 02:01 pm:

    Dude ... I wish i was still a Virgin...
    YOU HAVE NO NEED IN RUSHING . JUST STAY STRONG!


By semillama on Monday, November 10, 2003 - 05:25 pm:

    Dude, it's been 5 years...


By Qwerty on Tuesday, March 30, 2004 - 07:12 am:

    wow


By Draghyxa on Saturday, May 29, 2004 - 02:06 pm:

    Yeah 5 years ... Wonder if Scott is still a virgin ...


By Nubian King on Monday, May 31, 2004 - 04:06 pm:

    Black Guys have bigger cocks!


By Jo on Monday, April 4, 2005 - 07:01 pm:

    7 years now....=) great site this


By Antigone on Monday, April 4, 2005 - 08:27 pm:

    If nothing else, we've got staying power...


By Zap on Thursday, April 19, 2007 - 01:28 pm:

    9 years? ``` =P `` `` `` and still getting new ppl. Or is this all just one person? `` `` =P


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