This question is directed at the Sorabji women, but the guys can jump in also. Have any of you gals felt nauseated after achieving an orgasm? I know that question sounds silly, but I ask for a good reason. My girlfriend seems to get a nauseating feeling after she has the big "O". This occurs about 2/3 of the time when she orgasms. And when she has a really intense gasm it's almost a given that she feels queasy. That, my friends, means I don't finish--which isn't all bad 'cause I can stop and not care about it or do it on my own( which she enjoys watching anyway ). If any of you have any insight, PLEASE do tell. I hate watching her lie there suffering. It doesn't make sense to me at all.

thought you broke up with her?

More info, please: How long has this been going on? Has it occured for her with other partners (if she's had them)? Has she consulted a medical professional?

Sure it does. When you have an orgasm, it's this incredible stress (mind you a pretty pleasant one) on your whole body. Some people get intense headaches afterwards as well because the pressure builds and builds and builds until ... release. But during that time they were concentrating so hard that the end result was also a headache, or in your gf's case, being queasy. You use your tummy muscles a lot when having the big O, and it takes its toll differently on some people. Now, if shes feeling like extremely queasy afterwards, like shes's going to vomit, every single time, then I'd say she should probably ask her GYN about it, just to see if there might be something else playing a factor in it. First off, you're an awesome boyfriend for what you said about not caring that you don't finish (even though it probably bugs you a lil, just because it would be cool to share in that) but rather caring more about your girlfriend laying there and suffering. You rule. :) And I'm with her, watching a guy pleasure himself and get off... wOo, heck yeah! But anyway, if it starts happening more often, I'd kind of pay attention to what you're doing at the time. Like, if there's a certain position it occurs in or if it's during oral or reg. intercourse... that kinda stuff. And like I said, if it's just because she gets really wound up during, then it's understandable that she might feel a lil worn/queasy/drained etc. Sometimes, if you DON'T acheive actual orgasm but come so close, it can leave you with a sick feeling. You sure she's not just getting close and is either faking it (Not that she would do that. But.. ya just never know.) or thinks she actually had one but isn't quite there yet? Because that can definitely do it. Anyway, like I said, if all else fails and it doesn't get better, have her as a doctor. Assuming she wouldn't feel embarrassed about it. She shouldn't at all. Totally normal stuff they deal w/every day with themselves and others. Just my .02¢ on the matter. :)

The same thing happens to me. I have sex with a woman and she feels sick....

No she's not faking--not when my ass is bleedng half the time. You may be very well right, Carrie Ann. Never thought about what muscles are being used for a women, exertion factors and the like. Her ill feelings never usually last more than 15-20 minutes.

Have you thought about it being a nervous reaction? The only thing similar I've seen or heard of is.. knew someone once who used to faint every time she had an orgasm. Out like a light. She'd come round (excuse the pun) after a minute or so.

Pink -- a suggestion: Have her a drink a bit of peppermint tea before you start foreplay. (Half a cup shd do it. Not too hot.) Or she can peel a piece of ginger (equal in size to the distance btwn the end of her thumb & the 1st thumb joint) & suck on it for 10 min. prior. (Candied ginger will also work -- & its yummy.) Both of these cures work well for general nausea. It cd very well be related to her orgasm/but it could be something else. If the ginger or peppermint don't work/try making sure she eats something light beforehand. Strenous exertion on an empty stomach can cause queasiness. (Ever notice how sometimes yr stomach growls during foreplay? Even the digestive juices get stimulated from sex!) I had a similar experience once w/a rather well-endowed boyfriend. We were at it like jack rabbits from all angles/& he wd end up bumping my cervix repeatedly/which wd make me intensely nauseous afterwards. But we figured out that if we took it easy & didn't jostle my innards so much/the nausea stopped. Then again/some folks like bone- crushing, sheet-searing sex every time. But maybe a gentler approach might help. Esp. if she isn't getting nauseous after oral sex. (Does it happen no matter what position the 2 of you are in?) I wdn't tell her to schedule a special appt./but the next time she sees her gyn/she shd definitely mention it if the problem persists.

I think her problem persists with the intensity of the orgasm and the kind of energy she expends. I think the "yuck" could be a combination of other things too. She not used to having this much sex. I will try and make her eat a little something the next time. *if I tape the ginger to my pecker...hmmmm*

You bleed half the time? Hmmm, either I read that wrong or you're workin it jusssssst a lil too hard there. Heh, at any rate, I wasn't implying that she WAS, merely laying that out as a possibility. And, Bagpuss Being Serious... I know what you're talking about. I've passed out during orgasm before. Hehe. It sucks, lemme tell ya. But, I know the reason for it. I start breathing so hard and fast that I start hyperventilating and don't even realize it until I'm extremely light headed and lose consciousness for a few seconds. I haven't done it much but lemme tell ya, scared the wholy crap outta my boyfriend. Although, may be quite a compliment to think you gave someone such an intense orgasm that you knocked 'em out... literally. Mmmm, now you're making me want a nice hot cup of tea. My God, it's freezing tonight! I have to get to bed soon too, as I have a job interview tomorrow morning w/a Design Media company. Wish me luck! :)

Carrie Ann Good Luck. I have to admit, I made a woman forget where her head was once, and it did swell my ego a bit.

Thank you Bagpuss. :) The interview went well, and so now comes that wonderful waiting process. If I don't get it I won't be TOO devistated, but it's a pretty cool company. So I would like to land the position. I do have a couple other places lined up just in case though. ;) I was talking to a male friend of mine the other day and he told me something I was unaware was even possible. He said that he could fake an orgasm. We're not just talking about faking the moans and groans and screaming/back scratching etc etc etc. But the actual ejaculation process. He said he has a way of controlling his muscles and release time that he can easily fake it. I never thought this was even an option. He also said that he could have multiple orgasms. THAT, I can kind of believe. (Even if the guys not taking viagra to help his lil buddy, that is) I have heard of men who can maintain erection even after cumming once and continue about their business and then have another... Which, lemme tell ya. I would feel like SUCH 'the man' so to speak, if I could give a guy multiple orgasms. Heh. And the other thing he said was that he has never orgasmed from oral sex. My roommate had told me the same thing and that boy has been with at LEAST 20+ women and he's a little over 21. I find that pretty sad actually. I mean, you go thru that many women and none of them have been able to give the poor guy an orgasm. Without wanting to sound like I'm bragging or whatever, I have never had any guy have that problem with me and I know they weren't faking it. (I think that's just my one friend. The freak of nature that he is.) So it's just hard for me to imagine someone NOT being able to cum from it. I suppose if the person was just that bad and it was completely unenjoyable, then it might start a pattern and cause him to have a mindset that it just wasn't gonna happen and so he's almost fooled himself into believing that. In which case, it won't happen. Anyway, is that a very common thing? Are there a lot of men (and women too I guess) who CAN'T acheieve orgasm via oral sex? Just curious... If anyone wants to fill me in on this, that'd be cool. :)

there are a lot of men and women who can't achieve orgasm, period.

This is true. I feel sorry for them. It's such a wonderful thing to experience... every emotion balled into one and just *BURSTING* outta you from every pore... amazing.