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a while ago. a few months ago. right after i moved to new york. i decided to make my life complicated, so i started having sex with this guy. we would have sex for almost two hours, but the guy never... you know... had ONE. two hours. i felt like such dumbass. am i sexually inadequate? i haven't been with that many people, so I don't know if i was doing something wrong. he moved to mongolia, so we stopped having sex. but i really want to prevent this from every happening again. what should i do? thanks for your help, bell_jar |
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his orgasm isnt your problem, just like your orgasm isnt his problem. |
i can have an orgasm by myself. well, it's at least half bunk. if it's just some guy you're fucking maybe it is masturbation. but masturbatory intercourse aside, the pleasure of the other is important. that said, i don't need to cum to enjoy sex. i don't always cum. assuming "ONE" is an orgasm. it could be an erection. or a corneal hematoma. |
if she wants to prevent this from happening again, i think it best to realize that its not her responsibility to make him come. Nor his hers. I don't think you can ever blame the lack of orgasm on the other partner. |
Who knows, he probably wanted you to ream his ass with something too. |
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If he can go for 2 hours without wilting, you're probably doing something right. |
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No. If your fault for getting into bed with someone who looks like Rosie O'Donnell. You can't blame anyone's looks or features on why you can't come. |
I am so going to hell. |
Say a certain action is needed for kablooie on one partner's part. Then say other partner refuses to do such. Whose fault is it in that situation? Given that both parties enter into the situation with a mutual agreement that kablooie will be had by all, and prior knowledge of what it takes to produce kablooie. Patrick's POV would be that it's the first partner's fault for going to bed with someone who is not receptive to that person's needs, yet is it if prior to engaging in acts of passion,the other partner misrepresented themselves as willing to perform the kablooie producing action? Would it not then be the other partner's fault because of said misrepresentation, such that first partner would likely have sought a different partner if s/he knew the intial other partner would not assist in producing kablooie? Hmm? You're responsible for your own kablooie when you masturbate, but consensual sex implies to me that each person is going to get the other person off. What's the point otherwise? |
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whatever too late you should have asked him chances are it won't happen again, but if it does then i guess it probably has something to do with you. at least you'll have another opportunity to ask what the problem is, and if you can't, maybe you shouldn't be having sex. |
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i don't look like rosie... i don't think. i saw her on the upper east side a few months ago. i get so star struck when i see famous people. i just stare. i'm lame. and yeah, mongolia. that's very exciting. i may go to china in the spring and take a train to mongolia for a visit. |
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i dunno. |
i prefer the nuts from trees or those that are slightly insane. i'm pretty sure i've never heard of a tiger tree. and as for human beings, i've had my fill of being "used and abused" for awhile. yuck. |
those items are well known aphrodisiacs in that part of the world. arent you being a bit dramatic about this used and abused crap? |
and rambling, really. i should wash the dishes. |
You're being mighty judgmental today, Patrick. Not all your usual charming self. You got a fly up your bum or something? |
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Maybe they should hook up, it could be pretty sweet. |
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i can't say that i haven't thought about it. |
I'm so pathetic when it comes to setting people up. Did I mention that I've got three marriages under my matchmaking belt? But one of "my" couples just had a baby boy and didn't name him after me. I've threatened to split them up now. What the demoness hath wrought, the demoness can unwrought too. |
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im really uptight about these kinds of things. |
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They need to grow down. |
beware! you've grown up! you need to get out and blow bubbles more! maybe that's my next prank. sending bubbles in the mail. no, that's lame. i want to play a oprank. right now. |
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As he is out of the picture,it now becomes his problem,whether or not he reaches orgasm.There are a variety of reasons why orgasm cannot be achieved.Could be mental,physical,or maybe he was using street drugs,some of which will prevent orgasm. But I think you're missing the important thing here,yourself.As long as you enjoyed yourself,over this enviable 2 hour fuckfest,I don't see a problem. I hate to be the bearer of bad news,hon,but its probably best for you to not expect this kind of performance from your next lover :( |
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Nate's been using these boards for how long now and he finally speaks his peace? Let him deal with it. |
Inexperience and insecurity can do strange things to das jimjog. The more he sweats it, knows he's not making shit happen the more the problem compounds. you must have had saddles sores after two hours no? |
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Was a she. |
I'll go sit in the corner now. |
Gee as much as I respect you that doesn't mean you've had sex with a punk recently have you? |
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i get to go home in a few minutes. although... i may go the MOMA... i really don't know. |
I've noticed that with partners who are significantly shorter than me, I tend to either "kablooie" very quickly or not at all. huh. |
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punked is like dissed. my friend Maria, whenever someone gets put in their place, she always yells out "PUNKED!" which I think is so cute I stole it. |
oh you made me think of it just now for no other reason than you are in Canada. You arent drab, or in weird flat color. |
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atom is nice. he's wonderfully weird. |
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