Last night, Kazu asked me how long I thought it would take me to come up with a list of women I thought were hotter than she was. Of course, I didn't and couldn't answer that (and I think she mainly wanted to see what my reaction would be to the question). She'll have to fill in the context for that, I would screw up the details. |
"Am I fat?" "Do you think she's prettier than me?" ect. |
So we started talking about how he and his girlfriend who are doing the South Beach diet. He lost 14 pounds and she only lost 2-3. Then the conversation sort of morphed into a discussion about how she looks in general and how, despite his attraction to her, he thinks there are a lot of women out there who are hotter than she is and that if asked to name them, he'd be around a long time. So this upset me a little, not that he thinks there are extremely attractive women in the world who are not his girlfriend, but that he could hold the comparison in his head so easily. But anyway, there are other things about Henry that worry me more than this, it was just a conversation. I'm not worried about how he feels about his girlfriend...well sometimes I am, but in a more complicated way. Let's just say, I know he thinks she's beautiful. Then, I asked him if he thought Sem felt that way. He's never met him, but I wanted to see if he thought this was just one of those guy things. He didn't seem to. He asked me if I could. And I said, while I could probably make a list of very attractive men, if I was asked specifically to make a list who is hotter than sem, I couldn't do it. I mean, it's apples and oranges. I can't hold them both in my head. Anyway, the point of me asking the question last night was just to get his reaction which was exactly what I thought it would be and also just a way to start the conversation. This is one of those questions that just shouldn't be asked. I felt I could safely ask it because I knew how he was going to react and also why I asked it. If you're asking it in a more serious fashion, that is a terrible thing to do. I had shit like that. Questions like these are manipulative and only cause tension and feed insecurities. |
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So, why'd you do it? :) I think, for most men, appearance is not entangled with emotions. Thus, making a "mental comparison" of appearance does not involve the murky emotions and is pretty quick, straight forward. Not so for most women, which is why men should never, EVER answer such questions. If pressed for an answer, just start singing a medley of 70's love songs in a loud, off key manner. |
Because I am manipulative and thrive on my insecurities. Slow dancing, swaying to the music Slow dancing, just me and my girl Slow dancing, swaying to the music No one else in the whole wide world (so you can have it in your head too) |
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Oh yeah, the break to "If you want my body and you think I'm sexy" is on a continuous loop, too. |
After she asked me, I very nearly started singing: "We Like Tha Moon/Becuz it is close to us/We Like the MOOOOON..." |
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And let me play among the stars Let me see what spring is like On Jupiter and Mars In other words hold my hand In other words darling kiss me... |
And let me sing forevermore You are all I hope for All I worship and adore In other words please be true In other words I love you! |
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no answer for that, either |
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the answer is: duh |
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I bet she kisses me this time. |
you only have to lose weight... no she is not prettier than yo she's...different!!! |
Pinky and the Brain One is a genious. The other is insane. They're labratory mice who's genes have been spliced. They're Pinky and the Brain. Brain. Brain... |
and the mite could put up a fight, but together each had to be alone, 'cause Petes horse was what the mite called home... |