“You can’t help who you fall in love with.” BULLSHIT. You can absolutely help who you fall in love with, it just takes time and effort, neither of which most of us are willing to put in. It also takes a certain sense of self-awareness that you are putting yourself into these fucked up situations over and over. It’s really nice to be able to cop out of your responsibilities towards your own happiness by just deciding that the universe is against you, isn’t it? It feels good not to have to take on any of the burden of making sure that you don’t make the same mistakes you always did. Well too fucking bad for you. YOU are the one who is responsible for repeatedly getting involved with women who hurt you. YOU are the one who is responsible for letting the guy you are secretly in love with continue to fuck you and never ever kiss you. YOU are the only fucking person in the whole world who can stop You from making bad decisions. The next time you want to complain because you have fallen in love with some girl you met on the Internet and you feel bad because you never get to see her, or she is turning her interests towards a Different guy she met on-line, please do not come crying to me. Please remember that something in you felt a challenge, or a sense of safety in a relationship that could not be consummated or even really tested. Remember that you have done this before, and you knew it was happening again, and did Nothing to stop it. So really, you have no one but yourself to blame for your current state of unhappiness. And the next time you find yourself obsessed with some guy who doesn’t want you and probably already has a girlfriend, please remember that this too is a misery of your own making. Somewhere inside you is a person who doesn’t believe in love, doesn’t want to take the chance, and probably doesn’t think she’s good enough for anyone, so you find people you know you can never have and latch onto them. Just think about how many times you have done this before, and maybe you’ll start to realize that you are making a Choice to love these people because you are scared shitless that someone might actually love you back, and this is the best way to ensure that never happens. Look at yourself, accept some responsibility, and stop being such a giant fucktard. |
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