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Later on that maybe turned to a 'if it happens it happens'. No pill, no condoms, but no baby. A friend told me that if you haven't been using anything and you don't fall pregnant within a year then somethings not right. Then, all my medical shit happened. No period, But no double line. A period for three weeks. A week off, then seriously heavy bleeding, like I had be stabbed. A D&C for a pollip that wasn't there. A follow-up. No period for three months. No pregnancy but all blood tests come back fine. Two months after that a period. But every two weeks. Last night, (boys you can look away now) a horrible bleeding nightmare in the middle of my combat class. Today, the doctor. 'You have to make a choice. I can put you on the pill to get rid of your irregular bleeding, but this means no kids. Or I send you to fertility treatments, because you haven't fallen pregnant which means you need some help. You're 29. Your fertility is starting to decline anyway. It's wierd that you haven't gotten pregnant. You need to go home and talk to your partner - decide what you want to do'. More blood tests tomorrow, then once they get back I have to tell her my choice. I can't make it. I never thought I would have to make a decision like this. I think I want them, but I like our life. But I look at friends kids and I think 'yes!'. But I go home, and I write and trade and work and play and I think 'not yet.' fuck. |
I can't imagine life without Cleo, but I can imagine life without kids in general. Does that make any sense? Anyhow, you'll figure it out. |
I believe there is less bleeding involved, although that might not be the case if you attempt to adopt a Maori. |
35ish is not too old to have a child. |
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coooool. if i were you, which im not, id opt for the path of least resistance. going back on the pill for another year or so....i dunno, maybe it will help set you straight, maybe it will throw your body for a bigger loop. maybe it will just waste your time. maybe going into a fertility treatment will mess with you, maybe it will give you what you *might* want, post haste. i think if you are to hit the fertility clinic, you should probably be absolute in wanting a shorty. maybe you should keep trying. have some more faith. i had unprotected sex with no pill for 7 years before something happened. granted i wasnt planting seeds 80% of the time, but there were moments. i dont think its "weird" you havent gotten pregnant and im suspect of a doctor that would say that. there's so much we dont know about out bodies. has homeboy had his sperm checked? |
.. "has homeboy had his sperm checked?" i feel like i'm playing church league softball incredibly hungover. |
Have kids. Smart people need to breed. |
Jules, the every partying, child fearing, single friend said the weirdest thing when I told her all this.... 'you should do the fertility thing'. Because if I don't do it, and I go on the pill and then I finally 'get ready' (whatever the fuck that means), it may be less of a possibility to actually happen. Mum said there is no 'right' time. And I agree. You just have to make it work. Besides, even if I do the fertility thing, there's still a chance it won't work for me. So aren't I better to have tried now, instead of waiting for later when I'm getting to old to run round after a smallbeing? I have laid this all out to the Pandyr, and he was very cuddly and touchy, but he needs to make a choice too, because its our lives, not just mine. And if he says no I'm not sure what the fuck I would do then. And I think thats the part thats freaking me out the most. (This is even weirder - one of Drew's best mates and his partner who I am good mates with - they are also doing this right now - except she's taking the drugs. Half a pill a day to try and get an egg to release, she gets her results to see if its working sometime this week. We're COPYING THEM. What the fuck is up with that?) |
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I like you. I want more funny candy. Don't risk your own health or life just to have a kid. Don't force your body to do something it might not be meant to do. The hormones could end up fucking with you more than you could even imagine, and for nothing. Or on the other hand you could pop out 8 kids weighing 4 pounds total and loose half of them by the next day. They cannot control that stuff yet. The horror stories go on and on. If you want a kid, adopt. It poses no risk to you. You don't need scary shots or pills for it. The kids are all out there right now, waiting for you to be ready. They need you more than anybody needs fertility drugs. |
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Maybe one of each. lots of hugs moonit. i still have your prize here i've got some CPs to mail tomorrow, I'll send yours too |
We weren't sure if we were ready when my wife turned up preggers. We weren't trying. We were scared as fuck, and (to some extent) we still are. That kind of responsibility causes Mommy and Daddy's hair to go grey. But when the Roo coos and smiles and laughs it's abso-fucking-lutely worth it. I say go for it. Life has two states: stasis (also known as death) and change. If you're holding off because you're afraid of change, you're already engaged in a losing battle- it's ALL going to change anyway, sooner or later. |
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The want is not so much that I would consider this now. And there's about 1500 levels of treatment, and I would be starting on level one - to try and regulate my period and stop random nasty incidents. At least this is what I think is going to happen. If I bowled along to the clinic and they said something different then thats a whole other kettle of fish, or ovary of eggs. teehehe. And wisper, I would still be cool. (now watch me smack into the door frame on the way out). |
after I met Ron's three-year-old nephew I could feel my urge to be a mom kick into high gear. he was the most perfect little kid I've ever seen. I was amazed that he didn't annoy me at all, because often other people's kids annoy me. he doesn't understand english, so I know someone told him to say it, but when I was leaving he yelled out "I love you!!", and I almost picked him up and took him with me. I said to Ron: "If you and your whole entire family and close hebrew-speaking friends were suddenly to perish in a horrible accident, you'd leave Adi to me, right?" I want kids more and more lately, which is a big deal because I was never sure if I wanted them before. I was worried I would become my mother, which is a horrible horrible fate. but now, I think with the right person/people to balance me, I could do it. I'm not ready, though. are you ready? if you're going to do this, I want you to feel that you're ready. of course some people would say you're never ready for something like that, but you also kind of are. |
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never been pregnant. i think every woman i know has had an abortion that they revealed to me. i am thankful that i never had to make such a decision, but still, i wonder. i recently met a woman who had been pregnant 14 times. she's had 4 children, 4 abortions and miscarried the rest. she was having issues with her potential relationships with these 14 people. [saw them in dreams] i am friends with a medium who told me that my brother is still around. by that he means the child that my mother miscarried before me. i have a brother! seriously, it gave me a really warm feeling to think of having an older brother. okay, back to babies. |