they were supposed to be saved for halloween but I felt like contributing to my fatness by eating a whole bunch of them. I'm feeling great today and I'd like to let you all know that I've missed you all very much. I'm very happy and I'd be gladly obliged to let you guys know whats been happening with me lately. I feel like a deadbeat dad though. I leave for long periods of time but when I do come back I act like you all should be my best friends. But since I know you all are very generous with your nicety around here I don't think it will be much of a problem. Maybe you guys don't even remember me. Ah well. Love you all.

I remember you hon,what,s been up with you?

A lot. I have a new boyfriend of 4 weeks 1 day now who is incredibly unlike any other guy I've dated and maybe that's why we're doing so well. I turned 16 on friday the 22nd but since I didn't go to driver's ed I still can't drive. My grades are good and I've stopped going to counseling because I don't think I need it anymore. I'm really loving life and I think that everything's going to be okay from now on. (I'm really glad you remembered me.)

Not only did I remember you,I missed you and I,m glad you are happy:)

Oh that makes me feel really great!!! You think maybe you could help me out with a prob tho? Like I said, me and my boyfriend have been going steady for 4 wks 1 day. Well on saturday we were skin-on-skin dry fucking, and the subject came up of having sex. We didn't because we didn't have protection, but I totally wanted to. I don't know what would have happened if we would have had protection. Am I rushing into things? It seems soo totally right with him. But I don't want to be one of those women who say, I wish I wouldn't have lost my virginity when I was only 16. Hmm. Tell me what you think.

I think you should wait,I have to get off the board now,will get back to this tomorrow.

whatever you do, be true to yourself, if want to fuck. FUCK! If you don't then don't pander to his whining, i would say you seem a little more progressive than the girl i gave my viginity to, so he is lucky, i had to wait 4-5 months for that shit and even then i might as well have hade a date at the mortuary.......it was not a good experience, besides the condom broke.AGHHHHHHHH!!!

16 isn't too young, as long as he's a teenager too. is he?

here we are again.

I think you should get on birth control pills asap,then wait at least 3 months,then if you still want to what the hell,I think you are too young,but maybe it,s because I regretted having sex at a early age myself.

I lost my virginity at 14. And I have never mourned its loss. Which is not to say that it was "worth it." More to say that virginity itself is a pretty stupid assed concept. Speaking fragments. Anyway, the question of whether or not you want to have sex with this guy should not be complicated by the cultural yippie-kio-tie-ay of virginity. It should be whether or not you want to have sex with this guy. And some other factors. I have to agree with J that you should get on some sort of more rigorous birth control (can you get sponges? If you're not willing to shove that puppy up there, you don't want to have sex yet). Also, don't NOT use a condom just because you're using another method. And be aware that no matter what I say about virginity, once you've lost it every guy you date from now on will expect a little of the old sumpin' sumpin'. Because to them it's some sort of binary switch deal, you're either 0 or 1, and once you're 1... So learn to say: fuck you (and mean it).

what she said. doubled. don't listen to that lame "i can't feel anything with a condom on" bullshit, either. no glove, no love.

odds are he'll dump you about a week after you let him in. sex is all men want anyway. and when you're 16, you want to spread the loving around.

Thats about how it is.

Hang on a sec while I wipe the dust off my antiquated values.... In my opinion, you shouldn't sleep with someone (regardless of your and his age) whom you've only known for 4 weeks, *especially* if you have experienced sexual abuse in the past (is this true, Jenny? It's what pops up in my head when i flash on your name).

okay thanks you guys. Here's my individual comments to you all: Patrick: You're so lame! You had to wait 4-5 months... aw poor baby. Cyst: I'm 16 he's 17. J: thanks so much babe! you're a doll. Margret: I have to say I agree with you a lot. Mother of a love Child: right on. Nate: Nate, sweetie, I love you and all but, (but being the key word here), shut up. Just shut up. All guys aren't like you, or what you think all guys are like. J: I can't believe you AGREE with that! You should know by now that not EVERYONE is like that. and last, but SURELY not least, Rhiannon: you hit it right on the mark. But like I said I went to counseling for quite a long time, and even though I know that doesn't mean I'm 'all better,' it means I know myself a little better and I know how to make wiser decisions. !Everyone!: Because of all your input, I've decided to wait until we've made (at least) the three month mark, and then reconsider the whole business. And if we don't make it that long, well I'll be owing you guys a lot. I thank you all for at least putting your 2 cents in (and in some of your cases your $1.50). jenny

that's good.

Don't forget the birth control. Don't forget the birth control. Don't forget the birth control. One more time... Don't forget the birth control. I can't tell you how scary it is to be a teenage boy and wonder if your girlfriend is pregnant. Sitting in the Planned Parenthood office wondering if you're an unplanned parent with a sinking feeling the size of the planet in the pit of your stomach is... not fun. It must be ten times as bad to be a teenage girl and wonder if you're pregnant. Don't forget the birth control.

as if i care that much, Jenny before you start calling me lame i refer you to the REST of my post.......so bite me otherwise and I encourage you to step into the body/mind of 16, 17, 18 year old male.......GUYS can most definitely be sweet, they can be sincere, honest, loving and everything else,you are looking for but if you kid yourself for one god damn minute that he is not thinking about sex with you every waking minute...then you are a fool...and notice the keyword....here Jenny...yes I WAITED for her. I WAITED FOR HER and I STAYED with her until she dumped me........considering she was NOT a virgin and I was I didn't see what the big deal was, but she had been abused in a previous relationship...so i am not as lame as you might think and most certainly not the poor baby you sarcastically called me.....so naturally i take a little offense at that....when i was trying to be helpful and honest......

"Nate: Nate, sweetie, I love you and all but, (but being the key word here), shut up. Just shut up. All guys aren't like you, or what you think all guys are like. " we should take a poll on this. you have to be at least a day into your third decade to answer. yes, adolecent boys are like that. no, not all of them. but more than you think. it's a fact of nature.

oh, but good luck on that. three months is a good idea. the longer you wait, the the better the chance he'll stick around after the fact.