I have a lot of girl friends, but the most common is that I have almost dated everyone of them, but the last 4 years I have been engaged with a girl, still the older girl friends are my friends and we have meetings - so Yes : men and women can just be friends! But some weeks ago I discovered that my girlfriend had for some months ago meet a new friend...a man!They bumped on eachother on a nightclub and theres was no more....but they stayed in touch...I became a bit angry....but now she says that she wont se him anymore because I got so worried and she doesnt want to jeopardize our relationship...so in that case No (Not if one of the person in a relationship meets a new friens of the opposite sex - Its Ok if there is an old friend that they both know)..

Not me. Just clearing things up.

marcus (not markus), sounds pretty darn hypocritical to me. i don't think i would feel as comfortable about that arrangement as you do if i was your girlfriend.

what does it matter when the friendships were established? how is that relivant? seems like a good excuse for you to maintain your friendships while your girlfriend is kept away from any guys....hmm seems rather.. convenient..

engaged four years? it must be Claudia and David.

I don't let my boyfriend talk to any other girls. None at all. Not even people he has to work with. If he does, I must immediately administer his shock treatment. How do I know if he talks to other girls? Oh trust me. I know. Oh yes, I know. I make him wear these bracelets on his wrists and bands around his ankles. If we're out together and I see him look at another girl, talk about another girl or even try to order dinner from the waitress, I will send him a shock letting him know it's not acceptable. Depending on how bad he's been, determines what level of electroshock I send him. He has no friends. I am his friend. Me. He only needs me. Me. I have many boy friends though. Many, yes. That is not a problem. But there is no way that my boyfriend will ever talk to, think about or know any other women. NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!

(Spanking Sheila & CarrieAnn. Bad kitties! Bad, bad! Pull in those claws & go sit down! And stop that hissing, dammit!)

*Hisses, licks her fur and curls up at R.C's feet*

*almost wetting myself laughing* Carrie Ann that was fantastic

where do i get me onathem shock prods? that sounds like a fine idear. poor marcus, he's probably never coming back.

*grins @ MoonUnit* Agatha, I will let you borrow mine. I think my boyfriend needs a break from it anyway. At least until the hallucinations and twitching subsides. But hey, if he'd just obey and realize that I'm the only woman allowed in his life, I could make this a lot easier on him. *shrug* Muuuaahahahahaa Teehee, you're probably right. Poor Marcas is afraid to return to this board. All these catty women hanging around. *reeowwrr hissss* ;)

not catty Carrie Ann just honest ; )

Mmmhmm, although they can go hand in hand sometimes. ;) *retracts her claws and purrs contently*

wtf? yes they can be phriends...i've many phemale phriends and male phriends....although, there is one phemale i would like to be more than just phriends w/. ive known here for almost five years now and feel kinda strongly towards her, and have no idea how to tell her. i mean, hell, we're phriends.

No phucking kidding? ;)

I was friends with my friend for 2 years before we became a couple. I think that if you are friends beforehand you have a better idea of each other. ramble ramble blah blah

my beloved grandfather was named winston. i also knew a cool club dj named winston, you're not him, are you? go ahead and tell her, but keep it light, and make sure to let her know that if the feelings aren't mutual that you will always be her friend first and foremost. if you are both honest, it will work out regardless of whether it becomes romantic or not. it's scary to deal with that shit, isn't it? luck to you, winston.

I've dated phriends and it usually didn't turn out too well. When the dating relationship was over there was a lot of uncomfortableness (is that a word?). So, now, I'm just phriends with everyone!!!!!!!Whatever..............

I agree with you and disagree with you, MoonUnit. In a lot of my past relationships I was friends with the guy first. It was nice and of course we knew each other well, BUT you see a different side to someone when you become more intimate with them (not talking on merely a physical level). So you never truly know EVERYTHING about someone until you are suddenly on a different level.. and even then it's hard to crawl inside their head and see what's goin on. And all those relationships before never lasted as long as the one I'm in now. The guy I'm with/live with now, I met and ended up becoming bf-gf with him on the first night. We'd spoken maybe 2 or 3 times online because his friend had dated my friend and I invited him, spur of the moment to hang out for my bday. I was actually dating someone else at the time, but that relationship was going nowhere fast. We've been together almost 2 years now and I've never been so in love. It's so hard to lable anything like ... 'yes, men & women can just be friends' or 'hell no, men and women can't just be friends' because like I keep saying, it all depends on the people involved. Everyone is different. Some can. Some can't. *Shrug* 'Tis the way it goes. I have a lot of guy friends, some who I have had crushes on at one point (and vise versa) and others who I just became good buds with off the bat. You've just gotta decide which is more important, having a possible friend for life or steering clear of the opposite sex on a 'friendship' level because you don't trust yourself. I wouldn't trade my guy friends for anything in the world. Well... maybe a couple of 'em. *wicked grin*

Of course it depends on the people Carrie Ann. But if you cant be friends with someone how can things go further?? *g*

oh wait... I've had sex with someone I didnt like. *hehehe* So I mean things going further on a loving caring relationship level

Well? Some people honestly don't seem to understand that. They think there's a black and white, right and wrong, yes and no for everything. Forgetting that this world is made up of allllll kinds of people, places, things etc. In other words, more than 2 choices. Of course most of us know that's the case. But sometimes you've just gotta reiterate for the sake of those who may not. :) Hmmm, I think I may have worded that wrong then. I'm not saying that people who can't be friends can have anything on a higher level really. That's doesn't seem very possible. At least not that I've ever experienced. Although I can say I have loved people but not -liked- them. Heh, go figure. Anyway, I was implying that there are those out there who feel that they can't have any kind of normal, stable platonic friendship with a member of the opposite sex because they feel that there are just too many other emotions/hormones attached and they don't trust themselves. So they, in turn miss out on a possibly wonderful friendship. Heck yeah you can have sex with someone you don't like. A lot of people are guilty of that one. Heh. But on a loving caring relationship level, I would think it very necessary that there was a friendship there first. I'm simply saying that not all of the longest lasting, best relationships started from a friendship. ie. Mine... We hardly knew each other, became very close very fast and THEN formed a friendship along the way. I'm not saying that's the best way to do it, but sometimes that's how it happens. And in retrospect, there are guys I have been friends with for years but who I could never have anything above that with for whatever reasons. It's just different for everyone. Ummm, hmmmm.. dammit now I'm all confused. I had something else to say but *poof* Don't ya love it when that happens? Hehe. ;p

DUDE.. YOU CAN'T HAVE A PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP WITH SOMEONE. EVENTUALLY, ONE WILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR THE OTHER. THERE ARE TOO MANY INTERPRETATIONS WHEN ONE PERSON SAYS SOMETHIN TO THE OTHER OPPOSITE SEX. YOU JUST CAN'T DO IT. IT JUST DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY.

Sure it does. But the key thing is that you have to be not a moron.

...or you have to be not a troll.

.... must..... bite...... tounge.........

i just read the beginning of this thread. LOL!

jesus, i admitted i had sex with someone i didn't like.

So long as it was nice,so what? life is too short for guilt.

Hey V!!!

To say you made my day would be such a drastic understatement,so how is the best looking and most wise of all Sorabjis today?:) :) :)

i'm ok.

Is that you Dave?

Hahahahahhahhahhahhahahha

Hey, what's going on? I've been doing great, just hanging out. About being friends with the opposite sex and being nothing more than that, it's possible. Like I said once before, all my friends are male and I wouldn't have it any other way......nope, no how.... :)

dodi is a sorabji? what the fuck happened. i leave you guys for TEN FUCKING SECONDS and you fail to filter the crap out.

dodi is a sorabji? what the fuck happened. i leave you guys for TEN FUCKING SECONDS and you fail to filter the crap out.

Nate- no.

no, Dodi and VV had a nice AIM chat conversation on sorabji that lasted for ETERNITY.

Hi I am a man, and I won't date or make out with a woman, because it won't work, so I likes to dress up like a woman, feel soft like a woman, eat strawberry like a woman, moan likes a woman.

I am who I am.........

Grammatical graffiti in a microcosm,yet each troll posting has a distinctive prosodic trace that is unique and identifiable,rather like deoxyribonucleic acid.What is your "raison d,etre" ?

HUH?

I like to dress up like women on the internet,well only one woman. :) :) :)

Hmmmmmmmmm, who could that be??? :)

Agent D,i think you should be back in school,you are to say the least,retarded.,do you think not?did you have a bad child hood? was it anul sex from your Father that gave you your present persona,wow,DID I TOUCH A NERVE?

Who the,hell.,is Agent D?