On The Verge Of Puking

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By Pink Eye on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 12:36 pm:

    This question is directed at the Sorabji women, but the guys can jump in also.

    Have any of you gals felt nauseated after achieving an orgasm?

    I know that question sounds silly, but I ask for a good reason. My girlfriend seems to get a nauseating feeling after she has the big "O". This occurs about 2/3 of the time when she orgasms. And when she has a really intense gasm it's almost a given that she feels queasy. That, my friends, means I don't finish--which isn't all bad 'cause I can stop and not care about it or do it on my own( which she enjoys watching anyway ).

    If any of you have any insight, PLEASE do tell. I hate watching her lie there suffering. It doesn't make sense to me at all.

By Agatha on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 12:43 pm:

    thought you broke up with her?

By Male iS mal on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 01:01 pm:

    More info, please:
    How long has this been going on?
    Has it occured for her with other partners (if she's had them)?
    Has she consulted a medical professional?

By Carrie Ann on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 01:10 pm:

    Sure it does. When you have an orgasm, it's this
    incredible stress (mind you a pretty pleasant one)
    on your whole body. Some people get intense
    headaches afterwards as well because the pressure
    builds and builds and builds until ... release.
    But during that time they were concentrating so
    hard that the end result was also a headache, or
    in your gf's case, being queasy. You use your
    tummy muscles a lot when having the big O, and it
    takes its toll differently on some people. Now,
    if shes feeling like extremely queasy afterwards,
    like shes's going to vomit, every single time,
    then I'd say she should probably ask her GYN about
    it, just to see if there might be something else
    playing a factor in it. First off, you're an
    awesome boyfriend for what you said about not
    caring that you don't finish (even though it
    probably bugs you a lil, just because it would be
    cool to share in that) but rather caring more
    about your girlfriend laying there and suffering.
    You rule. :) And I'm with her, watching a guy
    pleasure himself and get off... wOo, heck yeah!
    But anyway, if it starts happening more often, I'd
    kind of pay attention to what you're doing at the
    time. Like, if there's a certain position it
    occurs in or if it's during oral or reg.
    intercourse... that kinda stuff. And like I said,
    if it's just because she gets really wound up
    during, then it's understandable that she might
    feel a lil worn/queasy/drained etc. Sometimes, if
    you DON'T acheive actual orgasm but come so close,
    it can leave you with a sick feeling. You sure
    she's not just getting close and is either faking
    it (Not that she would do that. But.. ya just
    never know.) or thinks she actually had one but
    isn't quite there yet? Because that can
    definitely do it. Anyway, like I said, if all
    else fails and it doesn't get better, have her as
    a doctor. Assuming she wouldn't feel embarrassed
    about it. She shouldn't at all. Totally normal
    stuff they deal w/every day with themselves and

    Just my .02 on the matter. :)

By Bagpuss on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 05:07 pm:

    The same thing happens to me.

    I have sex with a woman and she feels sick....

By Pink Eye on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 06:40 pm:

    No she's not faking--not when my ass is bleedng half the time.

    You may be very well right, Carrie Ann. Never thought about what muscles are being used for a women, exertion factors and the like. Her ill feelings never usually last more than 15-20 minutes.

By Bagpuss Being Serious on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 07:14 pm:

    Have you thought about it being a nervous reaction?

    The only thing similar I've seen or heard of is..

    knew someone once who used to faint every time she had an orgasm. Out like a light. She'd come round (excuse the pun) after a minute or so.

By R.C. on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 07:16 pm:

    Pink -- a suggestion:

    Have her a drink a bit of peppermint tea before you start foreplay. (Half a cup shd do it. Not too hot.) Or she can peel a piece of ginger (equal in size to the distance btwn the end of her thumb & the 1st thumb joint) & suck on it for 10 min. prior. (Candied ginger will also work -- & its yummy.) Both of these cures work well for general nausea.

    It cd very well be related to her orgasm/but it could be something else. If the ginger or peppermint don't work/try making sure she eats something light beforehand. Strenous exertion on an empty stomach can cause queasiness. (Ever notice how sometimes yr stomach growls during foreplay? Even the digestive juices get stimulated from sex!)

    I had a similar experience once w/a rather well-endowed boyfriend. We were at it like jack rabbits from all angles/& he wd end up bumping my cervix repeatedly/which wd make me intensely nauseous afterwards. But we figured out that if we took it easy & didn't jostle my innards so much/the nausea stopped. Then again/some folks like bone- crushing, sheet-searing sex every time. But maybe a gentler approach might help. Esp. if she isn't getting nauseous after oral sex. (Does it happen no matter what position the 2 of you are in?)

    I wdn't tell her to schedule a special appt./but the next time she sees her gyn/she shd definitely mention it if the problem persists.

By Pink Eye on Tuesday, February 9, 1999 - 10:59 pm:

    I think her problem persists with the intensity of the orgasm and the kind of energy she expends. I think the "yuck" could be a combination of other things too. She not used to having this much sex. I will try and make her eat a little something the next time.

    *if I tape the ginger to my pecker...hmmmm*

By Carrie Ann on Wednesday, February 10, 1999 - 01:56 am:

    You bleed half the time? Hmmm, either I read that
    wrong or you're workin it jusssssst a lil too hard
    there. Heh, at any rate, I wasn't implying that
    she WAS, merely laying that out as a possibility.

    And, Bagpuss Being Serious... I know what you're
    talking about. I've passed out during orgasm
    before. Hehe. It sucks, lemme tell ya. But, I
    know the reason for it. I start breathing so hard
    and fast that I start hyperventilating and don't
    even realize it until I'm extremely light headed
    and lose consciousness for a few seconds. I
    haven't done it much but lemme tell ya, scared the
    wholy crap outta my boyfriend. Although, may be
    quite a compliment to think you gave someone such
    an intense orgasm that you knocked 'em out...

    Mmmm, now you're making me want a nice hot cup of
    tea. My God, it's freezing tonight! I have to
    get to bed soon too, as I have a job interview
    tomorrow morning w/a Design Media company. Wish me
    luck! :)

By Bagpuss on Wednesday, February 10, 1999 - 06:58 am:

    Carrie Ann

    Good Luck.

    I have to admit, I made a woman forget where her head was once, and it did swell my ego a bit.

By Carrie Ann on Wednesday, February 10, 1999 - 01:34 pm:

    Thank you Bagpuss. :) The interview went well,
    and so now comes that wonderful waiting process.
    If I don't get it I won't be TOO devistated, but
    it's a pretty cool company. So I would like to
    land the position. I do have a couple other
    places lined up just in case though. ;)

    I was talking to a male friend of mine the other
    day and he told me something I was unaware was
    even possible. He said that he could fake an
    orgasm. We're not just talking about faking the
    moans and groans and screaming/back scratching etc
    etc etc. But the actual ejaculation process. He
    said he has a way of controlling his muscles and
    release time that he can easily fake it. I never
    thought this was even an option. He also said
    that he could have multiple orgasms. THAT, I can
    kind of believe. (Even if the guys not taking
    viagra to help his lil buddy, that is) I have
    heard of men who can maintain erection even after
    cumming once and continue about their business and
    then have another... Which, lemme tell ya. I would
    feel like SUCH 'the man' so to speak, if I could
    give a guy multiple orgasms. Heh. And the other
    thing he said was that he has never orgasmed from
    oral sex. My roommate had told me the same thing
    and that boy has been with at LEAST 20+ women and
    he's a little over 21. I find that pretty sad
    actually. I mean, you go thru that many women and
    none of them have been able to give the poor guy
    an orgasm. Without wanting to sound like I'm
    bragging or whatever, I have never had any guy
    have that problem with me and I know they weren't
    faking it. (I think that's just my one friend. The
    freak of nature that he is.) So it's just hard for
    me to imagine someone NOT being able to cum from
    it. I suppose if the person was just that bad and
    it was completely unenjoyable, then it might start
    a pattern and cause him to have a mindset that it
    just wasn't gonna happen and so he's almost fooled
    himself into believing that. In which case, it
    won't happen. Anyway, is that a very common
    thing? Are there a lot of men (and women too I
    guess) who CAN'T acheieve orgasm via oral sex?
    Just curious... If anyone wants to fill me in on
    this, that'd be cool. :)

By Agatha on Wednesday, February 10, 1999 - 10:29 pm:

    there are a lot of men and women who can't achieve orgasm, period.

By Carrie Ann on Thursday, February 11, 1999 - 04:25 am:

    This is true. I feel sorry for them. It's such a
    wonderful thing to experience... every emotion
    balled into one and just *BURSTING* outta you from
    every pore... amazing.

By Droop on Thursday, February 11, 1999 - 05:06 am:

    don't know why i can't sleep.

    remembering a girlfriend of years ago. my first sexual relationship way back in high school. i still think about her alot. she had a habit of not breathing during sex play - not holding her breath but just not breathing, as though it was distracting. i don't think she was completely conscious of the fact that she was doing it. i began noticing it when she would let out the occassional gasp for breath. i think it's fairly common not to breathe for a little while during love-making, but she would almost not breathe at all.

    once i was performing oral sex on her and she had a very strong orgasm. thighs clamped around my head etc. then she started letting out these choked gasps. she had already been not breathing, but when she orgasmed she had forced all the air out of her lungs and couldn't draw breath. i had to perform a crude mouth-to-mouth to get her breathe again. she didn't pass out, but she was in no condition to continue. i made sure to remind her to breathe after that, but i secretly loved that about her.


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