dead topic Sex: dead topic

By patrick on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 12:13 pm:

    the topic of sex never really comes up anymore.

    id say due to the fact that many of us 'know' each other and the topic takes on some sort of awkwardness.

    also the number of couples on sorabji has double in the last year or so setting a potential for danger.

    so im attempting to bring this topic back with hopes to curb some of the hard-on killing war chat

    my sex life has essentially been curbed. no surprise there.

    my body seems to be taking it well, but my brain sometimes takes issue with whats transpiring.

    i feel in the end its making me a bit stronger, the nature-imposed abstinence.

    this morning i was a bit grumpy getting dressed, trying on several shirts. nico, in her daze from the covers voiced approval for a particular shirt that just didnt work for me. she said disapointed when I took it off, saying it was sexy and was wishing i would wear it for her. i refused saying it didnt matter if i was sexy or not. of course this sucked for her. and now requires some work on my part.

    i think today would be a good day to go to the shopping center across the street to find that night gown ive been meaning to get her to give birth in.

    sex? want it? think of it? seen any good sex on the teley? are you incomfortable?

By Nate on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 12:54 pm:

    i'm incomfortable.

By patrick on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 12:58 pm:


By Nate on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 02:40 pm:

    are you inbarassed?

By patrick on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 02:43 pm:

    no. considering the I is right next to the U key its an obviose key strike errar.

By Spider on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 02:50 pm:

    I'm incommunicado.

By moonit on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:00 pm:

    Is this like the 'who had sex the last game' that I play with my friends?

    Okay its a really lame game.

By Nate on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:03 pm:

    if you have sex with your friends, everyone wins.

By jack on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:12 pm:


By sarah on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:13 pm:


    where do i start?

    (of course, i do realize this thread has "sarah bait" written all over it.)

By patrick on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:25 pm:

    moonit, its whatever the hell you want it to be. i purposely didnt specify otherwise i would have selected the thread title "when was the last time you had sex" which mark created a long time ago.

    start with the worst and work towards the best...however that may pan out sarah.

By patrick on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:30 pm:

    i will add to the topic by saying that porn is all too easy to obtain with Direct TV and that softcore can be really good or really bad.

    However, pushing a button twice to spend 11 dollars on 4 different channels of hardcore for 3 hours is wayyyy too easy.

By Nate on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 05:47 pm:

    having gnucleus gather porn for you while you sleep and then piping it to your tv via the s-video out on the back of your computer is just as easy.

    not that i've ever done this. i abhor porn.

By moonit on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 07:31 pm:

    Yeah, the Pandyr doesn't do that either.

    Better to have sex with your friends than sex with your enemies.

By moonit on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 07:31 pm:

    although, sometimes enemy sex can be far more satisfying.

By agatha on Thursday, February 27, 2003 - 08:02 pm:



By semillama on Friday, February 28, 2003 - 09:18 am:


By patrick on Friday, February 28, 2003 - 12:09 pm:

    aw jeeze agatha.

    who are your enemies moonie

By sarah on Friday, February 28, 2003 - 05:30 pm:

    speaking of sex...

    it's a done deal. i'll be in new orleans from march 11th - 14th, staying at a hotel on Rampart Street.

    this is an open invitation if anyone wants to meet up with me.

    i do plan on contributing more to this thread at some point. patrick's right... it's about time.

By agatha on Friday, February 28, 2003 - 08:37 pm:

    what are you implying, sarah?

    i'm too embarrassed to talk about this subject. i almost did, though.

By Nate on Friday, February 28, 2003 - 09:35 pm:

    i think sarah just said that there is an open invite to have sex with her for a limited time only.

By agatha on Saturday, March 1, 2003 - 12:44 pm:

    that's how i interpreted it, as well.

    what were those dates again?

By sarah on Saturday, March 1, 2003 - 09:44 pm:

    you guys know i was being face†ious.

    is that "t" up there? what the hell is that chå®åçter?

    i'm dog sitting for a friend usin© ?´®  using her new
    imac and the keyboard is weird. the new imacs at work
    don't do that.

    the invitation is not to have sex with me. none of you
    currently are invited to have sex with me. except for...
    oh nevermind. but y'all are invited to meet me in new

By sarah on Saturday, March 1, 2003 - 09:45 pm:

    except for YOU KNOW WHO!

By patrick on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 05:24 pm:


    and would someone other than sarah please talk about sex.

    pregnant sex is kinda kinky.



    and you know why its kinda kinky? because the traditional format is not really plausible. You must improvise.


By wisper on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 06:30 pm:

    wow patrick, only one month left until my little twin is born to you. April 2nd, she's coming! watch out!

    speaking of that, the period is late.
    Goody, goody.
    Not that it runs on any normal schedual, mind you, but it is late, even for me. If it's not here by next week, i've got some thinking to do. Did i say thinking? because there's really no thinking involved, not for me. For me it would only be choosing suction, a pill, or magic herbal-type shit.
    yup. no difficult thinking here. It would still blow, though.
    What a lovely monday!!

    But wait... february is shorter that january.... hmmm.

    oh, still, i'll give it till next week.

    this is fun, isn't it? It's so great being a chick. i love it. just sitting here, drinking tea, praying for blood, contemplating wether or not i'm gonna have some people. People who know more about this sort of thing.

    well, anyway, it's all free of course. no worries.
    It's usually the worrying that makes it later. That's the really sweet part.

    mmmmm, tea.

By kazoo on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 08:57 pm:

    I wish I had something to say, but I cannot figure out how to say something thoughtful and/or witty without implicating my personal life...and well, yes, the couple thing changes the dynamic completely. I can't even imagine what I would say under different circumstances.

    General opinions? I am pretty supportive of any kind of sex--casual, group, auto-erotic--as long as it is safer and takes place between consenting individuals. I do not believe that humans are "naturally" monogamous or that in every instance it is the ideal that we should all strive for, but that doesn't make it undesirable either. I'm being completely idealistic. I do think in a world where there was more respect for sexual variety (in both practice and orientation), there would still be monogamy. Otherwise, I have little, if any, tolerance for infidelity because love, devotion, jealousy, and betrayal are as real and as powerful as sexual drives/urges and temptation or whatever it is that make these humans do what they do.

    God I sound like an ass when I am uncomfortable telling personal stories.

By Nate on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 09:39 pm:

    i have naked pictures of sem.

By kazoo on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 10:26 pm:

By kazoo on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 10:27 pm:

    can anyone see my last post?

By jack on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 10:33 pm:


By Nate on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 10:52 pm:

    is that you, speechless?

By Lapis on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 11:23 pm:

    Hrm. Sex. Yes that.

    There was a long time where I would have slept with Hal had he asked me (I think that was pretty obvious) but that time has past. Especially since I don't know how to reach him anymore.

    Lately sex has been reserved for the weekends. Every other if I'm lucky. Right now it's been two weeks and I'll wait another week and a half.

    While I'm waiting, I perform. Mostly karaoke, but it forces me to talk to people and stay out of the house. At home I tend to be reclusive and perhaps even a tad O/C. Hopefully that will change with time and much effort on my part. Having friends to pull me out helps a ton.

By eri on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 11:27 pm:

    Again, there are so many things that I could add to this topic, that I would like to discuss, but I couldn't do that without giving Patrick too much info about my sex life with spunky and I know that grosses him out.

By Nate on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 11:48 pm:

    that is so cruel.

By kazoo on Monday, March 3, 2003 - 11:51 pm:

    no, not speechless. I don't know why the post didn't show up. It was just something silly like, "aren't you lucky?"

By sarah on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 11:17 am:

    does it gross him out more than you puking on him in a drunken stupor?

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 11:37 am:

    onetime nico and i took ecstasy and were fooling around and she sitting on my legs giving head and she threw up on me.

    it was more hilarious than gross as it wasnt like she blew chunks.....just mostly the beer she had been drinking.

    I laughed the whole time she cleaned me up.

By kazoo on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 11:54 am:

    Can I have the pictures of Sem?

By eri on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 12:19 pm:

    Two weeks ago we were in the living room, and we didn't take the time to close all the blinds and I looked up and there was one of our neighbors standing on the sidewalk outside and watching. I didn't know how to react to that one. I mean, do we put on a show or do I close the blinds or what?

By Nate on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 12:37 pm:

    i dunno kazoo. it would be a step backwards for me in my 'naked pictures of sorabjiites' collection.

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 01:12 pm:

    sooo did you close the blinds or what?

    kazoo. he has nakie pics of most us.

    you'd be wise to get yours in sooner than later.

By semillama on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 01:24 pm:

    "just sitting here, drinking tea, praying for blood,"

    That's a GREAT out of context quote.

    Nate has graciously volunteereed his service in making sure that none of us will ever have to hold public office.

By sarah on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 02:32 pm:

    nate does not have any nudies of me.

By Nate on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 04:00 pm:

    i might?

By eri on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 04:32 pm:

    We didn't close the blinds and just went back to the bedroom. The next time we closed the blinds and you could hear the local hoodlums outside laughing so maybe it doesn't make that much of a difference. Then again maybe they were laughing at something else. Who knows.

    What would you guys do if you noticed your neighbor watching you through your sliding glass door?

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 04:33 pm:

    depends on the neighbor.

By trace on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 04:48 pm:

    tell them about our only outdoors attempt

By eri on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 05:37 pm:

    LOL, wasn't that the night that the twins were watching through the fence? Or was that later?

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 05:47 pm:

    now next time you get on your "letter of the law" rants boy, dont go makin me dig up your states public decency laws.

By wisper on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 05:55 pm:

    i really like the way this thread is going, btw :)

    i need more stories!

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 05:56 pm:

    i think everyone has heard all my kinky stories before. as much as they want anyway.

By Nate on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 06:21 pm:

    i never heard the one about nico blowing foam all over your rod.

    of course, i can't say that i wanted to hear it.

By eri on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 06:35 pm:

    It isn't against the law when people are peeking through your privacy fence! Unfortunately almost all of my fantasies take place outdoors.

By patrick on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 06:52 pm:

    in some states.

    in some states your living room can be considered a public domain if you are seen from the sidewalk. so thats not entirely true.

    i cashed all my outdoor kink from the ages of 6-14 because there was no where else to go.

By kazoo on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 07:57 pm:


    I could send them back

By Nate on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 09:52 pm:

    it's a trap!

By eri on Tuesday, March 4, 2003 - 09:57 pm:

    "i cashed all my outdoor kink from the ages of 6-14 because there was no where else to go."

    I am afraid that by that time in my life I hadn't even had my first kiss. Sad, but true. I guess the back patio is the closest I have ever come to outdoor kink. I still have my carginity for chrissakes. I need to work on this.

By Nate on Wednesday, March 5, 2003 - 12:02 am:



By kazoo on Wednesday, March 5, 2003 - 11:00 am:

    it's not a trap. what if I said please?

By Nate on Wednesday, March 5, 2003 - 12:24 pm:

    what if you send out some collateral!

By sarah on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 12:42 pm:

    so i'm having sex with kevin periodically. maybe once a month or so. we usually have dinner first and get caught up on each other's lives. and then we fuck, and usually i spend the night. he got a new bed a few months ago that's incredibly comfortable.

    wednesday after work i debated going to the gym, or going for a walk, or going to the garden, or going home and making a margartia. my co-worker talked me into going for a walk to my garden with a margarita. but by the time i got home, i just wanted to eat and drink tequila. so that's what i did.

    kevin's been working way late hours, and after my first drink i called to invite him over for dinner. he showed up after my second drink and we had salmon and salad and fresh from the oven cornbread. then he went to the gym for 30 minutes, and called me to come over when he got home. in the meantime i had had two more drinks, packed a few boxes*, and talked on the phone with Greg.

    so about 10 p.m. i drove over to kevin's and we hung out with his brother and he drank a few beers, and we ate those new oreo cookies, and watched TV and goofed around. then we went to bed.

    it's not always 100% that we'll fuck when i spend the night. sometimes i just spend the night, mostly when one of is really tired. but i was all over him the instant we got into bed. he laughed and said, "i'm sorry to see you're so shy, sarah!"

    i worked him up a little bit, but there was no foreplay for me. within a minute or two we were having sex, and a few minutes later i had an orgasm, and a few minutes later he had one. boom. easy as pie, good, hot sex. he's the one who gave me my first vaginal orgasm (no clitoral stimulation whatsoever), and continues to make it happen like nobody else has.

    i don't know what it is about the chemistry between us, but the sex is just perfect. he knows exactly what to do, how he holds my hands up above my head and talks dirty to me, how slow to move, the exact right angle of my legs, etc. and i know exactly what he likes. it's what we do, and it never gets tiresome, old, or boring. sometimes we change it up a little, but there's definitely a formula that works for us.

    there's also a lot of trust, which helps a lot. we can let it all hang out with each other and know that whatever it is on any given night, it's all good. we really work each other's fantasies.

    so yeah, it's probably not that good for me emotionally. i'm not attached to him romantically though, just sexually. and i enjoy his friendship occassionally, and rely on him for certain types of personal support. he has this way of handling me, of discussing things with me, that nobody else understands.

    i'm not sure if this is entirely healthy, given that i'm dating a few other guys (Glen, Greg). does this mean i lack scruples? does the state of the relationship prevent me from moving on? does it hinder my growth in some way? i don't know. i don't particularly care right now.

    * i'm moving to a HUGE new house, with a new housemate who is totally cool. no lease, either, so i'm free to go whenever i'm ready.

By J on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 01:19 pm:

    I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex with Kevin when your dating other guys,your not married.I say enjoy it.

By eri on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 01:31 pm:

    As long as it isn't a romantic type of emotional involvement (taking you back to where you were before) then I don't see the harm in it. As long as you have the right wall up, friends, sex, no more than that.

By Spider on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 01:51 pm:

    Personally, my ethics aside, I don't think it's healthy to have one guy on the back burner that you can use as a backup whenever you feel like it, because a) it's not very nice to the backup guy and b) it keeps you from putting yourself out there (emotionally speaking) enough to have a fully functional, healthy relationship with somebody else.

    (Hey, those who can't, teach, right?)

By patrick on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 02:04 pm:

    as long as you are honest with all involved, its perfectly healthy.

    if the backup knows he's a just that (backup is not the best of terms because it implies second best which may or may not be the case). If anything she is just filling in the gaps with Kevin.

    If you don't seem a fully functional and healthy relationship with one sole person and are enjoying yourself, there is no harm.

    i wouldnt recommend getting stuck in that kind of patterned behavior for long, but it can be good in short bursts.

By heather on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 02:52 pm:

    or you could just declare yourself poly

By sarah on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 03:09 pm:

    ewwww. i'm not poly. i'm just sleeping around.

By heather on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 03:26 pm:



By agatha on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 06:08 pm:

    I'm going to be the only one to tell you that you shouldn't sleep with Kevin any more.

    So there.

By BIGKev on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 09:22 pm:

    NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! sleep with kevin he likes it, he needs it (speaking as a kevin myself)

    if you question the situation your in, fine.
    if you have doubts about the situation your in, stop, look around, figure out if it really is what you want/need....

    and like patrick said... if your honest with all parties, who cares, ride'm cowboy!! (girl)

    [Agatha, what about the other guys? (im assuming that shes also sleeping with them on occasion] should she stop sleepin with them too? or just the one that really knows how to turn her crank???

By agatha on Friday, July 11, 2003 - 11:38 pm:

    you're telling her what to do without knowing the whole story. she shouldn't sleep with kevin anymore- it's too complicated. the others, fine.

By sarah on Saturday, July 12, 2003 - 01:21 am:

    agatha, i know you're right. it's just that the sex is so

    i'm officially NOT sleeping with Glen anymore. he
    actually did break up with me, if you can believe that.
    and not because of the sleeping around thing. we
    agree we're better off as friends, and the $ issue really
    did bother me.

    i haven't slept with Greg yet, but I probably will if we
    continue to date.

    so i guess as of tonight i'm only sleeping with Kevin,
    and only once a month or so. there's a part of me that
    knows i need to extract him entirely from my life, but i'm
    just not there yet. i really am having a hard time letting
    go of the sex!

    that's all. goodnight.

By Sex talk on Sunday, July 13, 2003 - 12:29 am:

    so who all has an STD?

By agatha on Sunday, July 13, 2003 - 01:58 pm:

    I know you know, Sarah, which is why I didn't go into any more detail. And I understand why you continue to sleep with him, as well. I just think you're making more drama for yourself, and if you can deal with that it's fine, but if not...

    I don't have any STD's that I'm aware of, sorry.

By kazoo on Friday, July 18, 2003 - 03:32 pm:

    This is just based on what I have read from past posts (so my knowledge may be a bit out of context compared with people who have been able to follow the stories properly) but I have to agree with Agatha.

By eri on Friday, July 18, 2003 - 05:29 pm:

    The more I think about this situation, the more I worry about you, Sarah. A friend of mine was in a similar situation, and slept with her ex-fiance occasionally. It led to a bad situation. She still isn't fully out of it.

    Without warning the guy dropped by her work (she is the one who runs the OBGYN lab at her place, so she's alone there) and started talking about suicide, really over the top shit. She was scared. He was playing on her emotions. He knows how to do this well.

    It's getting to be a really fucked up situation. I don't want to see you in anything like that. Sometimes it is better to leave well enough alone.

    I am also afraid that if you are having sex with you, that maybe there is some kind of emotional attachment you are hanging on to, not letting go of, that you haven't realized. Maybe it's holding you back from truly finding what you want.

    I just worry about you. I want you to be happy. I don't think this is the best route.

By heather on Friday, July 18, 2003 - 07:40 pm:


    do what you do

    hoodoovoodoo so well

By heather on Friday, July 18, 2003 - 08:30 pm:


    and you never said who had an open invitation
    to sleep with you

By agatha on Friday, July 18, 2003 - 11:42 pm:

    I'm pretty sure it's you, Heather.

    I don't totally worry about Sarah, only because her Karma is so good that it guarantees that she'll land on her feet. But I do worry a little bit, too, because it tends to be my nature.

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