Both Yes and No! Can men and women just be friends?: Both Yes and No!

Marcus on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 04:33 am:

    I have a lot of girl friends, but the most common is that I have almost dated everyone of them, but the last 4 years I have been engaged with a girl, still the older girl friends are my friends and we have meetings - so Yes : men and women can just be friends!

    But some weeks ago I discovered that my girlfriend had for some months ago meet a new friend...a man!They bumped on eachother on a nightclub and theres was no more....but they stayed in touch...I became a bit angry....but now she says that she wont se him anymore because I got so worried and she doesnt want to jeopardize our in that case No (Not if one of the person in a relationship meets a new friens of the opposite sex - Its Ok if there is an old friend that they both know)..

By Markus on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 10:39 am:

    Not me.

    Just clearing things up.

By Agatha on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 11:01 am:

    marcus (not markus), sounds pretty darn hypocritical to me. i don't think i would feel as comfortable about that arrangement as you do if i was your girlfriend.

By Spiracle on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 04:37 pm:

    what does it matter when the friendships were established? how is that relivant? seems like
    a good excuse for you to maintain your friendships while your girlfriend is kept away from any guys....hmm
    seems rather..

By Sheila on Friday, November 6, 1998 - 05:48 pm:

    engaged four years?

    it must be Claudia and David.

By Carrie Ann on Saturday, November 7, 1998 - 03:25 pm:

    I don't let my boyfriend talk to any other girls.
    None at all. Not even people he has to work with.
    If he does, I must immediately administer his
    shock treatment. How do I know if he talks to
    other girls? Oh trust me. I know. Oh yes, I
    know. I make him wear these bracelets on his
    wrists and bands around his ankles. If we're out
    together and I see him look at another girl, talk
    about another girl or even try to order dinner
    from the waitress, I will send him a shock letting
    him know it's not acceptable. Depending on how
    bad he's been, determines what level of
    electroshock I send him. He has no friends. I am
    his friend. Me. He only needs me. Me. I have
    many boy friends though. Many, yes. That is not a
    problem. But there is no way that my boyfriend
    will ever talk to, think about or know any other
    women. NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!

By R.C. on Saturday, November 7, 1998 - 05:10 pm:

    (Spanking Sheila & CarrieAnn. Bad kitties! Bad, bad! Pull in those claws & go sit down! And stop that hissing, dammit!)

By Carrie Ann on Saturday, November 7, 1998 - 08:38 pm:

    *Hisses, licks her fur and curls up at R.C's feet*

By MoonUnit on Sunday, November 8, 1998 - 01:46 am:

    *almost wetting myself laughing* Carrie Ann that was fantastic

By Agatha on Sunday, November 8, 1998 - 03:33 am:

    where do i get me onathem shock prods? that sounds like a fine idear.

    poor marcus, he's probably never coming back.

By Carrie Ann on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 01:41 pm:

    *grins @ MoonUnit*

    Agatha, I will let you borrow mine. I think my
    boyfriend needs a break from it anyway. At least
    until the hallucinations and twitching subsides.
    But hey, if he'd just obey and realize that I'm
    the only woman allowed in his life, I could make
    this a lot easier on him. *shrug* Muuuaahahahahaa

    Teehee, you're probably right. Poor Marcas is
    afraid to return to this board. All these catty
    women hanging around. *reeowwrr hissss* ;)

By MoonUnit on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 06:55 pm:

    not catty Carrie Ann just honest ; )

By Carrie Ann on Monday, November 9, 1998 - 09:02 pm:

    Mmmhmm, although they can go hand in hand
    sometimes. ;)

    *retracts her claws and purrs contently*

By Winston on Wednesday, November 11, 1998 - 09:42 pm:

    yes they can be phriends...i've many phemale phriends and male phriends....although, there is one phemale i would like to be more than just phriends w/. ive known here for almost five years now and feel kinda strongly towards her, and have no idea how to tell her. i mean, hell, we're phriends.

By Carrie Ann on Thursday, November 12, 1998 - 02:09 am:

    No phucking kidding? ;)

By MoonUnit on Thursday, November 12, 1998 - 03:13 am:

    I was friends with my friend for 2 years before we became a couple. I think that if you are friends beforehand you have a better idea of each other.
    ramble ramble blah blah

By Agatha on Thursday, November 12, 1998 - 12:13 pm:

    my beloved grandfather was named winston. i also knew a cool club dj named winston, you're not him, are you? go ahead and tell her, but keep it light, and make sure to let her know that if the feelings aren't mutual that you will always be her friend first and foremost. if you are both honest, it will work out regardless of whether it becomes romantic or not. it's scary to deal with that shit, isn't it? luck to you, winston.

By Me.................... on Thursday, November 12, 1998 - 02:05 pm:

    I've dated phriends and it usually didn't turn out too well. When the dating relationship was over there was a lot of uncomfortableness (is that a word?). So, now, I'm just phriends with everyone!!!!!!!Whatever..............

By Carrie Ann on Thursday, November 12, 1998 - 03:51 pm:

    I agree with you and disagree with you, MoonUnit.
    In a lot of my past relationships I was friends
    with the guy first. It was nice and of course we
    knew each other well, BUT you see a different side
    to someone when you become more intimate with them
    (not talking on merely a physical level). So you
    never truly know EVERYTHING about someone until
    you are suddenly on a different level.. and even
    then it's hard to crawl inside their head and see
    what's goin on. And all those relationships before
    never lasted as long as the one I'm in now. The
    guy I'm with/live with now, I met and ended up
    becoming bf-gf with him on the first night. We'd
    spoken maybe 2 or 3 times online because his
    friend had dated my friend and I invited him, spur
    of the moment to hang out for my bday. I was
    actually dating someone else at the time, but that
    relationship was going nowhere fast. We've been
    together almost 2 years now and I've never been so
    in love. It's so hard to lable anything like ...
    'yes, men & women can just be friends' or 'hell
    no, men and women can't just be friends' because
    like I keep saying, it all depends on the people
    involved. Everyone is different. Some can. Some
    can't. *Shrug* 'Tis the way it goes. I have a
    lot of guy friends, some who I have had crushes on
    at one point (and vise versa) and others who I
    just became good buds with off the bat. You've
    just gotta decide which is more important, having
    a possible friend for life or steering clear of
    the opposite sex on a 'friendship' level because
    you don't trust yourself. I wouldn't trade my guy
    friends for anything in the world. Well... maybe
    a couple of 'em. *wicked grin*

By MoonUnit on Friday, November 13, 1998 - 12:36 am:

    Of course it depends on the people Carrie Ann. But if you cant be friends with someone how can things go further?? *g*

By MoonUnit on Friday, November 13, 1998 - 12:38 am:

    oh wait... I've had sex with someone I didnt like. *hehehe* So I mean things going further on a loving caring relationship level

By Carrie Ann on Friday, November 13, 1998 - 06:35 pm:

    Well? Some people honestly don't seem to
    understand that. They think there's a black and
    white, right and wrong, yes and no for everything.
    Forgetting that this world is made up of allllll
    kinds of people, places, things etc. In other
    words, more than 2 choices. Of course most of us
    know that's the case. But sometimes you've just
    gotta reiterate for the sake of those who may not.

    Hmmm, I think I may have worded that wrong then.
    I'm not saying that people who can't be friends
    can have anything on a higher level really.
    That's doesn't seem very possible. At least not
    that I've ever experienced. Although I can say I
    have loved people but not -liked- them. Heh, go
    figure. Anyway, I was implying that there are
    those out there who feel that they can't have any
    kind of normal, stable platonic friendship with a
    member of the opposite sex because they feel that
    there are just too many other emotions/hormones
    attached and they don't trust themselves. So
    they, in turn miss out on a possibly wonderful
    friendship. Heck yeah you can have sex with
    someone you don't like. A lot of people are
    guilty of that one. Heh. But on a loving caring
    relationship level, I would think it very
    necessary that there was a friendship there first.
    I'm simply saying that not all of the longest
    lasting, best relationships started from a
    friendship. ie. Mine... We hardly knew each
    other, became very close very fast and THEN formed
    a friendship along the way. I'm not saying that's
    the best way to do it, but sometimes that's how it
    happens. And in retrospect, there are guys I have
    been friends with for years but who I could never
    have anything above that with for whatever
    reasons. It's just different for everyone.

    Ummm, hmmmm.. dammit now I'm all confused. I had
    something else to say but *poof* Don't ya love it
    when that happens? Hehe. ;p

By IRENE on Wednesday, September 8, 2004 - 08:52 pm:


By semillama on Thursday, September 9, 2004 - 10:00 am:

    Sure it does.

    But the key thing is that you have to be not a moron.

By V on Thursday, September 9, 2004 - 03:42 pm:

    ...or you have to be not a troll.

By moonit on Friday, September 10, 2004 - 04:03 am:

    .... must..... bite...... tounge.........

By dave. on Friday, September 10, 2004 - 04:17 am:

    i just read the beginning of this thread.


By moonit on Friday, September 10, 2004 - 07:51 am:

    jesus, i admitted i had sex with someone i didn't like.

By V on Saturday, September 11, 2004 - 06:43 am:

    So long as it was nice,so what? life is too short for guilt.

By Dodi on Saturday, September 11, 2004 - 03:04 pm:

    Hey V!!!

By V on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 12:05 am:

    To say you made my day would be such a drastic understatement,so how is the best looking and most wise of all Sorabjis today?:) :) :)

By dave. on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 12:31 am:

    i'm ok.

By Hal 9000 on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 01:00 am:

    Is that you Dave?

By Silent J on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 01:49 am:


By Dodi on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:07 am:

    Hey, what's going on? I've been doing great, just hanging out.

    About being friends with the opposite sex and being nothing more than that, it's possible. Like I said once before, all my friends are male and I wouldn't have it any other way......nope, no how....

By Nate on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:30 am:

    dodi is a sorabji?

    what the fuck happened.

    i leave you guys for TEN FUCKING SECONDS and you fail to filter the crap out.

By Nate on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:30 am:

    dodi is a sorabji?

    what the fuck happened.

    i leave you guys for TEN FUCKING SECONDS and you fail to filter the crap out.

By wisper on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 03:03 am:

    Nate- no.

By agatha on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 03:34 am:

    no, Dodi and VV had a nice AIM chat conversation on sorabji that lasted for ETERNITY.

By V.v on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 10:47 am:

    Hi I am a man, and I won't date or make out with a woman, because it won't work, so I likes to dress up like a woman, feel soft like a woman, eat strawberry like a woman, moan likes a woman.

By Dodi on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 02:46 pm:

    I am who I am.........

By V on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 07:32 pm:

    Grammatical graffiti in a microcosm,yet each troll posting has a distinctive prosodic trace that is unique and identifiable,rather like deoxyribonucleic acid.What is your "raison d,etre" ?

By Dodi on Sunday, September 12, 2004 - 10:21 pm:


By V.v. on Monday, September 13, 2004 - 12:10 pm:

    I like to dress up like women on the internet,well only one woman. :) :) :)

By Dodi on Monday, September 13, 2004 - 02:59 pm:

    Hmmmmmmmmm, who could that be???


By V on Monday, September 13, 2004 - 08:17 pm:

    Agent D,i think you should be back in school,you are to say the least,retarded.,do you think not?did you have a bad child hood? was it anul sex from your Father that gave you your present persona,wow,DID I TOUCH A NERVE?

By V.v. on Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 01:10 pm:

    Who the,hell.,is Agent D?

By V.v. on Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 05:02 am:

    Uhmm. AgentD is actually V.v.

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