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A family sticks together. You defend and look out for the members of the family. Even from the grave. And, you have a moral code that you do not break. There are some things you do and some things you never ever do. Simply because they are either right or wrong. In these simple areas there are no shades of grey just pure black and white. I just found out that my father, before his illness, broke a promis he made to me. One that he knew was very important not just to me but to everything I was brought up to believe. Not only did he break this promis but, he continued to lie about it to my face up to the day he died. If I had found out about this before his death I would have disowned him! I would never have seen or spoken to him again! I would never have gone to his funeral! I would never have made arrangements for him to recieve his lodges last rights! And, I would never have told his friends at his funeral what a good man he was! He was not a good man. He lied to me and he broke my heart! He betrayed every thing he taught me! And, since I have not one sign that any of my forebares even attempted to prevent this or diswade him from this course of action I can only conclude, based upon what I was brought up to believe, that they failed me too. I HAVE BEEN BETRAYED! I HAVE NO FATHER! I HAVE NO MOTHER! I HAVE NO FAMILY! The Walls are up. The door has been bolted and welded shut. All Trespassers will be destroyed!!! |
Does one flaw make him a bad person? |
But without knowing details we'll never know. Sorry you feel so betrayed, Watcher. I hope you can come to terms with it. I'm sure we can lend a sympathetic ear if you need one. |
I still feel the same. I did speak to a councelor as soon as possible. So I could begin the healing process. I still feel the same. I can not believe he did this. But, he did. |
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So we're left to make up crazier and crazier theories. It could be anything from selling an heirloom silver tea set to fucking his brother with a wine bottle. And i don't think counselling could help with that last one. be strong, watcher. |
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i'd like to hear your story. |
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I suspect my father has a deep dark secret as well. Since I was 15 or so I've considered the possibility that he's not my biological father, and that my uncle is. I can't really say there's any one thing that makes me think this. Maybe it's that I've always felt distant from my father. Maybe it's that my father and uncle were never close, yet lived in the same city (after leaving home) for twenty five years. Maybe it's that I share much more intellectualy and emotionally with my uncle. And my parents were rather swingin' in the 70's. I can easily believe that an affair of some kind happened between my uncle and mother, and that's what's caused a long time rift between brothers. It feels odd, actually writing this. If this were true it wouldn't really trouble me. My father will always be my father, no matter what. That and I've had twenty years to get used to the possibility. It's more of a curiosity. Will they tell me this year? Ever? Am I full of shit? I'm always eager to find out. :) |
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i don't know my parents' secrets. it seems that life has homogenized them and they fit in well in the little stepford- retirees village where they live. i think my dad has a personality disorder. it seems like they are my biological parents, but i think i am an alien. |
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Just a broken promise. But, one he repeated - unasked - several times after he broke it. For five years after he broke it. |
No ifs, ands, or buts. But, he did it. Then lied about it. |
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youre probabwy wite |
watcher, you have a very interesting set of standards |