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So I reread a Gulper #4 oday and it has this short little article about the ease and convenience of "open relationships" and it makes me go hmmmm a little. Again. I've been reading about various aspects of sex for a little over a year now. Now, how open is open, really? Do anything you want, but don't fuck anyone else? Only do things with certain other people? I'm sure this really depends on the degree of relationship and the people involved and never dreamed of giving it any more than a passing thought but.... You fill in the blank. It's all felt pretty good, but there's no heart involved and I worry myself thinking about what other people (re: rebounding boy of the undefined relationship) will think. I'm not going to lie to him about anything, I'm not going to lie to anyone about myself, but it worries me a little that I seem to fall into bed easily and if it should be my place to do so. Open relationships isn't really the issue here, it never was. Too general. As always it's all about me me me and blah. But. Maybe I should try and keep myself out of these hanging out thingummies for awhile. I got pretty broken up a few months ago and am just now getting over it but I haven't really met anyone who I seem to like who can work around my schedule. I like being busy and all but I'd like to be able to plan my life. Stupid job. It's in the way of everything. I should quit and start a squat and sleep with everyone in sight. |
Anyways.....you aren't engaged to rebound guy so you should do whatever feels right to you. There is nothing wrong with going out with more than one person at a time as long as you are happy and honest about what you do. |
"worry myself thinking about what other people will think." there's little point to that. in short, id say you're still a bit new at the love/sex/relationship thing. try not to try on too many shoes at once, you have plenty of time. its not something you should seek out in otherwords. you may find yourself in a situation that could perhaps fit the definition, or one of the definitions of "open relationsjhip". But i think quickly seeking to define a relationship or seeking a relationship on such a definition usually kills it before it has a chance to mature. |
To many things to say, and not enough words to say them correctly. You are who you are, although rarely who you want to be. |
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I hung out at the local dirty punky cheap bar with my friend Lauren last night and talked about all the zoobomb boys. There were two guys there who I've slept with in the last two months, they're friends too. I am beginning to be a slut. The thing about it is, I don't really care, I haven't the heart to care about what I'm doing. Whatever. I'm going to go play Risk and not drink and stay out of trouble for at least one night. |
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I do, I do, I don't know, already broken, camera stays home, I do. |
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Lapisez, you'd never be a slut. Although you didn't go to my all girls high school, so maybe you have a different definition. |
The last time I fooled around with anyone I stopped wanting to do anythin so he stopped wanting me to be there. He offered to call me a taxi, but I didn't want one and walked four miles home instead. To clear my head. I don't remember anything I thought on that walk, I don't remember things that I think when walking around anymore, it's almost a blank slate freshly wiped clean. I need to get away from everything. Without any way to get away, there's nothing I can do. I feel trapped where I am and my life is getting sucked away one day at a time (this is just to be dramatic). What Hal said. |
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Also it wasn't stated in the article that the police officers who impounded the bikes were (1) off-duty and (2) from Beaverton. They broke the chain and threatened the Zoobombers who were there with a taser. |
How does Alan Graf make any money, always representing the downtrodden and oppressed of Portland? one is tempted to think that he deals drugs onthe side. and no, it's not "Oatmeal Boy". Whoozzat? Having open relationships doesn't make blind dates any easier. or less humiliating. That is all. |
you have to watch the names you take around here... oatmeal is not one you want |
can we call you Biscuit? them's tasty. |
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Read. |
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fucking shit, stop saying that name. it's just bad juju. |
Didn't Dougie post under some breakfast names once? But that was funny. How about cheesy grits? Boo Berry? That stuff moonit sent me? Cheerios? Honey Nut Cheerios? Yes! Honey Nut is a great name! Especially if you are one of them man-types. |
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it's been such a long time since we've had a good ol' fashioned sorabjiite blackball. our success rate is 100%. |
oatmeal boy was before my time. |
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In other words "I don't really give a rats a** about you. It's all for me." Of course we're all envious. But, it doesn't mean we'd actually engage in the practice ourselves. |
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Or some politian will hear it and try to wright legislation for it. For the good of the children of course. |
this makes me so mad. he doesn't give a shit for her. ggggrrrah. sorry, this is dumb story and hardly new to anyone, but the reason i thought of it is that a bunch of my friends think that the reason they have issues is something intrinsic to open relationships. i think that an open relationship can work, just as long as the 2 people are on equal terms. the problem with my friend is not that she thinks she wants an open relationship. its that she's just not respecting her own rights in any sort of a relationship. |